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... It happened so fast. I couldn't resist the erotic vibes I was feeling all over my body before I knew what was happening, we started kissing and caressing each other. Something in me kept telling me what I was doing was wrong, …  what happened next? find out …

“Ngozi, you know I love you? I nodded my head in affirmation.  Be a good girl and ensure you are closer to God, don’t join an evil company, remember I have always told you that evil company corrupts good manners, you know where I got that from right? Yes, Sir, it's from 1 corinthians 15:33. Let God guide you in all your decisions on campus. Ngozi, you are my precious daughter, face your studies, and do your best to come out with a very good grade.” Those were the words my dad told me when I was leaving home for the university.

Life on campus was exciting, fascinating, and challenging at the same time. Immediately I got to school I joined our church Christian campus fellowship because of my upbringing and because dad asked me to. I wasn’t committed to the fellowship as I tried to strike a balance between my social, spiritual life, and academics.

I was not used to going to night clubs because of my parents' strict upbringing, although I had always wanted to be like other girls who sneaked out of the house to attend night parties on the pretense that they were going to study/sleep at a friends’ place when I was in secondary school.

One day, my roommate Amara a 200 level Accounting student invited me for a night party. At first, I told her I couldn't go because I was afraid that something bad could happen there, that wasn’t the first time she was inviting me anyway and I had always turned her invitation down, but this time around I really did not have an excuse because it was just the first week of resumption of the second semester and no serious work had started in school.

 As I was still contemplating whether to go or not, her boyfriend Emeka came in with his friend Chidiebere.
Emeka greeted us and introduced Chidiebere to me as his friend, Chidiebere was a 400 level Chemistry student, handsome, tall, with a very catchy voice and carriage, he looked like any girl’s fantasy or dream guy. He convinced me to accompany them to the party, assuring me that nothing will happen to me.

At the party, I met other friends from my department, Chidiebere and I were together at the party, soon we got talking, he told me more about himself, his visions and goals in life, we talked at length and true to his word he didn’t do anything strange to me that day.

After the party, Chidiebere and I started dating, he started visiting me in my room, we would talk, hold hands and go to the eatery outside the campus together. At this point, I had stopped attending fellowship, I gave lots of excuse to members that came to check on me, my relationship with God was no longer intact — I was far from Him — my guy took His place in my heart. I was enjoying life and celebrating my freedom from my parents.

One Saturday, as I was coming back from shopping, I decided to branch to see my sweet Chidi, this was my first time visiting him alone after he proposed to marry me a month ago. He was so excited to see me in his room alone, I told him I just felt like seeing him and to give him a special gift I bought for him.

We both sat on his bed as we talked; he started narrating all over again how he fell in love with me at first sight and so on… soon we ran out of discussion topics.

 He stopped and gazed at me with a very suggestive and seductive look, I managed to open a new topic for discussion, but he kept looking at me in the eyes, I felt strong chemistry going on in my body, but I remembered how my mum had warned me against pre-marital sex … so, I decided to stand up, but he stood up too and held my hands and told me in a subtle voice "Ngozi, I love you, you are the first girl that has made me feel this way since I was born". Those words echoed and reechoed in my mind as if I had never heard someone speak such words to me in the past 20years of my life.

It happened so fast. I couldn't resist the erotic vibes I was feeling all over my body before I knew what was happening, we started kissing and caressing each other. Something in me kept telling me what I was doing was wrong, but my emotions had overruled my right thinking; he gradually removed my dress while I was lying on the bed. I was still thinking well, I will stop him from having sexual intercourse with me, but before I knew it, he took off my underwear, I couldn't resist him, the rest is history….we had sex! He deflowered me.

 I felt so ashamed of myself. A sense of guilt overwhelmed me, I just sat on the bed with my head buried between my hands! I became aware that I had just lost my virginity! I had lost my pride, I had lost my virtue to a guy that I have known for 6 months and promised to marry me after he graduates, I felt really bad.

Then, I made up my mind I wouldn't allow it to happen again but the more I tried the more I fell into it, I couldn’t stop seeing him, I felt a part of me connected to Him that made it difficult to stop.

One day, as I was about entering his room, I heard guys laughing out loud in his room; I overheardChidiebere telling one of them, "that babe is cheap"! He started narrating our sexual encounters and everybody started laughing at me. I turned back feeling so ashamed of myself.

The following day I saw Chidiebere on campus in the company of another lady, my friend told me that was the new girl he was dating. I confronted him and he didn’t deny it either.

I got back to my room feeling the world was fast crashing on my head. I wept bitterly, I remembered how he took off my underwear the very first time I went to his room, I  felt used and naked. I remembered the warnings of my parents, I remembered the warnings of my pastor … I felt really bad and wept sore. I asked God for mercy and forgiveness.

Read also: 10 Reasons to avoid premarital sex

Months later, I felt so sick and was diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection. I was lucky it wasn’t HIV, but I went through hell before I was eventually cured of it. I missed some exams and subsequently had to spend an extra year at the university.

Dear Sis, stories like this exist everywhere, you remember the very first time you allowed that guy to take off your underwear to have sex! 

Something in you told you what you were about to do is wrong, but you refused to listen. Now, you still playing the sex game telling yourself one day you will stop and you still haven't stopped.

Flee fornication, every sin that a man doeth is without the body but he that commits fornication sins against his own body, what! Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which ye have of God and ye are not of your own. For you are bought with a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which is God’s (1 Cor 6: 16-20 KJV).

Your body is not your own, Abba Father gave you so you can live here on earth fulfilling His purpose for your life.

You have been bought with a price and that price is the blood of Jesus.

 Dear, anytime you engage in premarital sex, you get devalued, you lose your worth to a worthless guy. You are not better off than a used item, like a half-eaten apple. 

Why allow yourself to be used?

 Don’t allow any man to taste or test you before he takes you to the altar, you are not a used car that needs to be test driven!

 God's design for sex is: “no sex before marriage and no sex outside marriage”.

If a guy can’t wait for you, he doesn’t deserve you because true love waits. 

The fact that you are dating or in courtship with a guy is not a license for him to sleep with you.

Your virginity is your pride, don’t lose it on the altar of sexual pleasure, or trying to use what you have to get what you don’t have, don’t allow your lecturers sleep with you because of marks, why will you allow your boss in the office, or your uncle or neighbor or friend take advantage of you? Why will you sleep with a man because of money or for whatever reason!

You are special to God, and God your Father is capable of taking good care of you, this is sure when you are tight with Him.

“We have a little sister, and she hath no breast: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for? If she be a wall, we will build upon her palace of silver: as if she be a door; we will enclose her with boards of cedar” (Song of Solomon 8:8-10  KJV).

I love the  NLT version which says: “We have a little sister too young, for breast. What will we do if someone assess her to marry her? If she is Chaste, we will strengthen and encourage her, but if she is promiscuous we will shut her off from men”

Check out: 5 Uncommon Truths about sex

From the two translations, you will see that to be chaste is likened to a wall and to be promiscuous is likened to a door!

A wall is a protection and is always standing, but a door opens and closes from time to time, so the question is “are you a wall or a door?”

Each time you engage in sexual immorality, God is disappointed, in fact not just God; you also become disappointed in yourself, your parent, your future spouse, your spouse parents, heaven, and your generation.

This is not to make you feel guilty if you were once in but you have repented and you now live for His glory. You are a new creation in Christ. You are already forgiven.

Hmmm, Did I hear you say “I’ve not had sex before, I’m a virgin, but I masturbate!” You fiddle with your private parts, or you do it with other girls (lesbianism) and you think nothing is wrong? Know that all forms of sexual immoralities are a sin against God, whether in actions or in your thoughts.

Romans 1:26-28 says For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient.

If you are still in the act, only the Lord Jesus can set you free, but first, you have to invite Him here into your life to be your Saviour and Lord.

If you made this decision please send a mail to fulfillpurposeblog@gmail.com so we can pray with you and tell you the next step to take. 

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