10 REASONS TO AVOID PREMARITAL SEX

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1 Thessalonians 4:3–5 says, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honour, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.”




Sexual behaviors of adolescents and youth are categorized as one of the main health priorities of society because of the high prevalence of human immunodeficiency virus/acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS), sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and unwanted pregnancies.


Premarital sex has destroyed the lives of many and left many wounded, It involves adolescents and mostly youths who could not keep themselves.


Premarital sex involves having sex outside marriage which is not God's plan for sex.


 The following are the adverse and dangerous consequences of premarital sex:


1). There are EMOTIONAL CONSEQUENCES to premarital intercourse. Studies demonstrate that many emotional problems in adolescence and young adults result from premarital sexual intimacy.

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2).  There are PHYSICAL CONSEQUENCES of premarital intercourse. Of course, the probability of pregnancy is just one. The other consequences include incurable std’s caused by sexual immorality. When you are sexually active with someone, if they had other partners before you, by default you are involved with them and all those that they were involved with before they were with your partner and so on; this is called "soul tie"; Your soul joins with the soul or souls of those you have had sex.  We will call these “soul ties,” because your soul is actually being tied or entangled together with the soul of the person you had sex.  Think of it this way, when you get on an airplane you are usually allowed a piece of carrying on luggage to keep items you will need during the flight accessible. Soul ties can be considered carry-on luggage.  It is unwanted, hindering, emotionally draining baggage that attaches itself to your soul every time you sexually involve yourself with someone outside of marriage. Not only are you carrying on the baggage of the person you have sex with, but every person they had sex with and so on and so on and that’s a lot of baggage. Also, diseases pass through all those contacts.

Ephesians 5:3 says, “But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”




3). There are MARITAL CONSEQUENCES to premarital sexuality. You bring extra baggage into a relationship that is already difficult. How can each spouse know the other will be faithful if they could not wait until marriage? And what if “I am not as good as the others before me?”

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4). There are SPIRITUAL CONSEQUENCES to premarital intimacy. Yes, God will forgive, but even in forgiveness the consequences of our actions often remain. Remember, the sword did not depart from David’s house. 2Sam 12:10

1 Corinthians 6:18 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”

Premarital sexual intimacy is COUNTERFEIT LOVE. It will not last. You will not grow together intellectually, emotionally, or spiritually if the relationship moves to sexual intercourse before the maturity of marriage.

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Here are 10 reasons why we should avoid premarital sex:


  1. Engaging in premarital sex hinders you from evaluating your relationship. Premarital sex often masks problems that will be revealed in marriage because you allowed sex to cloud your mind from making the right choice on the true personality of the person you married. There are questions that can never be truly answered in a premarital sexual relationship.
  2. Avoiding premarital sex lessens the pain and helps you move on with ease in the case of a breakup. 
  3. Avoiding premarital sex ensures a selfless relationship. Participating in sex before marriage trains you to be selfish. Marriage is about serving your spouse whereas indulging in premarital sex is about pleasing yourself not your partner and not pleasing God.
  4. Avoiding premarital sex helps build your friendship through effective communication. The foundation of every relationship is friendship. Friendship is about knowing each other and you can't know each other via a sexual relationship. Premarital sex makes your relationship more physical than mental, the relationship becomes more about sex than communication. Physical attraction always wears off.
  5. Engaging in premarital sex can make you feel guilty. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy, the feeling of guilt, etc,. 
  6. Premarital sex can cause you to remain in a deficient relationship.
  7. Engaging in premarital sex makes you feel undervalued. When a lady begins to have sex with a guy it raises her expectation of commitment from the guy, which most guys are not ready for. They are just with the lady for the fun of it, this makes the lady feel undervalued in the relationship.
  8. Engaging in premarital sex increases the chances of undesired pregnancy.
  9. Engaging in premarital sex puts you at the risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases.
  10. Avoiding Premarital sex gives room to you walking in love. It helps you to show affection to your partner through other ways apart from sex.


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