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"Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth, it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them"(Isaiah 34:16)

When should a Christian start to date?

Should a Christian date in high school, in college, or only after they graduate? 

What does the Bible say about when to date?

Not a whole lot. The Bible doesn’t directly say anything about dating. 

So to answer this question, “When should a Christian start dating?” we need to do our best to apply general truths in the Bible to this specific question.

The Bible doesn’t give a certain age for when Christians should be married, so it definitely doesn’t say what age people should start dating. So to get this answer about the timing of dating, we will have to come at this from another biblical angle.

Who and how you date is more important than when you date.

 The Bible doesn’t give us a formula for how marriages are supposed to happen. What the Bible does make clear, however, is that God wants healthy marriages to happen between two Christians ( 1 Corinthians 7:2, Proverbs 18:22 ). This is why I believe the main guiding principle for all dating relationships is that they should have a goal of figuring out whether marriage is or is not going to happen between two people.

See: What to Know before you Think of Dating

Therefore I believe Christians should only start dating when they are ready for marriage. I say “ready” not in the sense that you will be the perfect spouse, but ready in the sense that you are prepared to fulfill your biblical role as a husband or wife. If you are a male, are you ready to provide, protect, and lead your wife? If you are a female, are you ready to manage your household, raise children if you unexpectedly get pregnant, and respect the leadership of your husband?

These questions can’t be answered by someone’s age. A mature 18-year-old young man may be ready to be a godly husband more than a 35-year-old guy still unemployed with a quick temper. It’s not about age. It’s about maturity.

Dating without the purpose of seeing if marriage is right for you and the person you are dating, in my opinion, is definitely unwise and perhaps unbiblical. Why do I say that? Because intimacy and commitment are always paired in the Bible.

A Christian Should Start Dating When Ready to Commit to One Person

A Christian should start dating when he or she wants to find someone to commit to in marriage, not just in dating. Dating should not be an end in itself. Dating should be a means to an end. 

Check out - How to Find True Love

A Christian Should Start Dating When They Can’t Serve the Other Person Anymore in Friendship

If you are dating a new girl or guy every few months, that is a problem in my opinion. Too much dating is a sign that you are missing the importance of a healthy season of friendship. Friendship is usually the best way to start a relationship.

I say that because oftentimes you can learn enough about someone in friendship to determine it would not work romantically before entering into a dating relationship. I believe you should start dating once you can no longer determine what you need to know from the friend-zone.

Much of what you need to know about someone to see if you should not progress with someone can be found out in friendship. You need to date, however, to see if you should keep progressing. In other words, you can know you don’t want to marry someone by being friends. You won’t know if you do want to marry that person by just being friends. That’s when dating should happen. Eventually, you will need to progress from friendship to learn other things about that person which you can’t know as friends.

So When Should Christians Start Dating?

Christians should start dating once they meet someone that they like but they need to progress past friendship to learn more about him or her. If there are things you don’t know about someone that you can learn from friendship, you should remain friends and not date. Are they a Christian? Are you generally headed in the same direction in life? What state does this person plan to live in? All of these types of questions can be figured out in friendship. Why date someone when there are basic flaws in the match that could have been discovered in friendship?

Just because we are waiting to date does not mean we are sitting around and waiting in friendship. Life is never only, or even mainly, about love and marriage. Our life is about Jesus now — his love for us and his plans for us — whether we are single or married, sixteen or sixty.

God has so much more in store for you than any relationship can offer. He wants to say something spectacular through you and your young life. He wants to use you and your gifts to change other people’s lives. If he wills for you to be married, he wants to make you into a strong and caring future wife or husband. And he wants to show the world where to find happiness through your joy in him now.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ, I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible-believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.

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