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Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. (Psalm 1:1-2)

Dear Reader,  today we are going to look at  the subject of "peer pressure". Your friends can either make you or mar you. You should not allow friends to mar your life and destiny through negative 'peer pressure'. They influence you to do what is wrong, so you can be like them at the detriment of your future.

 First and foremost, let's define the terms "peer", "pressure", and then, peer pressure.

Peer in this context simply means a mate, one that you're equal to, or one that you spend your time with as a result of social, professional, or intellectual standing. It is also the association of persons with like minds, same age group and persons  with singleness of purpose.

Pressure on the other hand means the way and force or influence directly or indirectly learnt or imbibed in a person or group of persons.

“Peer pressure or social pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes , values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. This can result in either a positive or negative effect, or both.” — Wikipedia.

Peer pressure simply means influence from people we spend our time with. These people could be in our homes, schools, church, office, or those we have chosen as friends.

Peer pressure could be good or bad, positive or negative. It is what influences our behavior and as humans, we choose to be influenced positively or negatively.

 Peer pressure affects individuals of all ethnicity, genders and ages. Peer pressure has moved from just face-to-face interaction to digital interaction as well. Now, social media offers opportunities for young people and adults alike to instill and/or experience pressure everyday.

The major part of peer pressure is in the friendship aspect, that is , those we have chosen as friends.
Having companions and making friends is good, but sometimes,trying to fit in to a group just because the set of people in it are famous is what peer pressure is all about. At the end of the day, when we do what we know we shouldn't do, but still do it because others are doing it makes us feel guilty, ashamed and embarrassed of ourselves.

Always surround yourself with friends who will build you not those who will destroy you.
See also: The 4 most important relationship you need

How do to know you are suffering from negative peer pressure:

The desire to be part of something can put pressure on you to act in certain ways. If you’re doing something you wouldn’t normally do, or are not doing something you’d like to do, simply so that you’ll be accepted by the people you hang out with, you’re suffering from peer pressure.

When you think you need a girlfriend to make you feel that you are a man, you're suffering from peer pressure.

When you your friends influenced you to be a smoker, you are suffering from peer pressure.

When you have to steal from your parents because you want to please a girl you are suffering from peer pressure.

Majority of people in this situation do not even know they are being  influenced negatively by the company of people they admire or hang out with. Mind you, peer pressure should inspire you to become greater and better, and not influence you to fit in, in a negative way.

You should surround yourself with individuals who will build you up and lift you higher. You should always be conscious of your association because you know who you are. When you move with the wise you become wise but when you move with fools you become foolish (Proverb 13:20). It got to a time that the wisest man on earth before Jesus Christ came (king Solomon)  began to live and act in foolishness because of wrong association.

 Peer pressure can influence:

  • The way you talk, act, and live
  • The way you dress
  •  The activities you get involved in
  • The music you listen to
  •  Your decision of your career and ministry
  • The kinds of movies you watch
  • Who you marry
  • Your choice of  friends or association etc.


Three ways peer pressure can influence us:

  1.  Direct: Someone telling you the way they want you to live your life.
  2.  Indirect: Your group of friends might do certain activities together that you’re unlikely to do outside of that group because it is wrong.
  3. Self-motivated: Putting pressure on yourself to fit in with the lifestyle of your friends, because of certain standards they’ve set or comments they’ve made about you.

  Your association determines your acceleration and destination in life.

Please note once again that peer pressure could be good or bad, positive or negative. We can motivate ourselves to be influenced or inspired by an individual we see as a mentor by doing what the person does in order to be successful and go a long way in life; while on the other hand, peer pressure in a negative context makes a person do what they haven't been doing before due to pressure from friends or association, wanting to be among the famous or happening people or even as a result of low self-esteem. This is why our today's bible verse says "Blessed is the man that walks not in the counsel of the ungodly". Joseph did not fit in to the pressure of his brothers who were against his dream, rather he chose to believe in God and who He has made him to be. At the end of the story, Joseph became greater and his brothers had to bow before him. Let them say what they want to say about your dream and future, refuse to give up - your confidence in God should be unwavering.

 How to handle peer pressure in the negative context:

  • Be conscious of your Identity: You must be conscious of who and whose you, this will guide you in decision making.
  •  Pursue your own interests: Hang out with people who like doing the same stuff you do.
  • Learn to say ‘no’: If you can calmly explain why something‘s not for you, you’ll gain respect.
  • Love yourself: Love yourself the way you are, you are your best lover.
  • Don’t judge: Respecting someone else’s choice may help them respect yours.
  • Friends don’t have to agree on everything: Understanding that everyone has their own opinion means you can chill out and feel less defensive.
  • Have a healthy self esteem: Know who you are and whose(God) you are and walk in that knowledge. Know that you were not created to fit in but to stand out. You're unique in your own way and only in your uniqueness can you make a difference.
  • Pray: In prayer you seek the help of God to overcome negative peer pressure - don't depend in your ability.

In essence dear friends, let us mind our association as well as the people we allow to influence us. Yielding to negative peer pressure will make you who you are not. The prostitute today is one because of her wrong association, God never created her a  prostitute - this is not her identity.

It is only what we allow into our life that is permitted to shape us, influence us or even manifest in our lifestyle.

  Your association determines your acceleration and destination in life. Let us guard our hearts from evil and from the wrong company. Daniel had the right association and he became great, you can achieve greatness when you associate with great people.

Ask the Holy Spirit to help you overcome every negative peer pressure around you; allow him help you separate from the wrong friends and guide you in choosing right ones. It is only what we allow into our life that is permitted to shape us, influence us or even manifest in our lifestyle.

Be conscious of who you are and live in this light - You are created in the image and likeness of God.

You are loved.

You are worth the Blood of Jesus.

Your value is in Him not in your achievements or personality.

God my Father is loving. He is so in love with you dear. Stay in His love.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen.

If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.

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