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4. Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 5. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. 6. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. 7. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. 8. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [it will lose its value and be superseded by truth]. ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 AMP).
You say you don't love him again, I know why? It's not because your love tank has been exhausted. It is because you fail to walk in love. Love does not have expiry date. love never fails.  Ask divorce couples if they still love each other, some of them will tell you "yes". The reason for the divorce is not the lack of love but what they call " irreconcilable differences ". If your love is only based on feelings (Romantic/erotic love), your relationship/marriage is bound to fail. Love has to graduate from the romantic stage into the intentional stage where you know how to love them based on their personality and love language, this romantic love will not do for you.   Human love cannot sustain and maintain a godly relationship. There are couples who have been married for more than three decades, but they are enduring not enjoying their marriage.  If you love a guy today because of the way he makes you feel, when he can't make you feel the way he does now, will you still love Him?  Please let's carefully study  1 Corinthians 13 because it gives us the best definition of love.

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I am not writing this to justify the action of any responsible guy but I am writing this so we can put our feelings on check. Don't be feelings ruled. Question your feelings. We should not allow our feelings to control our life or relationship.

Investing your feelings in the wrong person/ relationship is an emotional wastage.
Your feelings should be invested in the right relationships, this is the only atmosphere where you can be fruitful and multiply in your relationship as God has ordained for you from the beginning.

 God does not give you a love relationship that will deprive you from being happy and fulifilling purpose. We must know that love is a choice and not a feeling but it can create feelings.

The feeling we feel is the experience we get on the choice of who we choose to loveSo choose wisely those you give access to your life.
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Check out the following advice:

1. Build a relationship that is God Centered: You cannot expect a God result when you take God out of your relationship equation. A God centered relationship is managed by God when both partners surrender to the will of God. One way they do this is to follow God's model for their relationship as stipulated in the word of God.

Is the word of God the final authority in your relationship?

 Are you doing relationship your own way and you expect to see His glorious ways in your relationship?

 Your actions and reactions in your relationship should honour God. God knows how to revive love when it is getting cold, so involve Him in your relationship. Talk to Him first about your relationship.

Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22 AMP)
2. Learn to submit to Him: God's role for a woman in a marriage is for her to submit to the man even when the man does not look submittable.

Submission is a weapon to get you unusually loved by your husband. The more you submit to him the  more he honours and loves you. But if you want to be a nagging wife then expect both of you to always fight. It takes alot of sacrifice to submit, but the benefit is greater than the cost.
Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built... (Proverb 24:3 AMP).

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3. Relate with wisdom: How, when and where you say something is very important in a relationship. If you use a loud tone to tell your wife "I love you", it will pass a wrong message even though you had the right motive. The way we talk and act matters to the success of our relationship. There are times to talk and their are times to be silent. There are cases that only prayer can do, so don't try to change them when it is prayer they need.
Love him intentionally even when you don't feel like it and when he doesn't worth your love, this is what unconditional love is about.
4. Have a positive attitude: Believe the best of your guy and your relationship. Don't believe in the lies the devil suggest to you. Your parents marriage did not work out does not mean yours will be the same. Don't carry the lifestyle of your parents to your home and relationship. You have to stand on the word of God and believe only what the word says about your relationship, this will empower you to love him well and motivate you to give him your best.
...and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation]. (Proverb 24:3 AMP).
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5. Live with understanding: It is not that you don't love him again, it is just that you don't understand him. People are bound to change, you have to understand this truth. You have to understand why he behaves in a certain way. If you see him not happy, that's not the time to tell him about the children school fees. Walk in understanding in your relationship, this is the only way your relationship can stand out in the test of time. A man loves a woman who understands him. Take out time to study him and you will see that the love you think has died didn't die.
Misunderstanding is when understanding is missing in your relationship.
God is interested in your relationship and only when you look up to him that you can be able to love unconditionally.

You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name. Amen.

If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.
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