THINGS TO NOTE BEFORE SAYING "I DO"

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"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil" . Proverbs 3:5-7.



Courtship is a season before marriage where two people come together basically to build an intimate relationship and to know each other better; in order for them to be aware of what they are taking into marriage and also, what to expect.

Related: The Purpose of Marriage

Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity. It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual "dating" relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.

It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory . It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love. (See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm 9:10, Romans 12:10, Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.). Courtship strives to answer the question, "How can I honor God and discern His direction regarding my life partner"? Courtship, which can be called premarital relationship, is very important because it helps set the tone for a successful marriage.

Related: How to prepare for marriage 
 A lot of people just go into relationships and get married without actually putting focus on marriage and this is a major reason why marriages fail in the first place. Being intentional about your relationship prepares both you and your partner for marriage — and if couples aren’t prepared, they might fall out easily. You do not just go into marriage because of mundane things; be practical in your approach. Below are some tips to consider before marriage which takes place in courtship:

1. BE HONEST ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT IN A PARTNER
Everyone is attracted to certain qualities in a partner, and everyone have certain qualities that they deem important in their partner. One important step is honesty; be honest and open to your partner about what you really want. With this your partner knows what you want.

2. BE OPEN ABOUT WHAT YOU AREN’T COMFORTABLE WITH
People suffer in silence in their relationships; they hide their disgust at some habits of their partner that they aren’t comfortable with. If you carry such attitude into marriage, you would definitely implode after a while, and your marriage wouldn’t be a happy one in the long term. If you hate the fact that your partner is dirty or whatever, be open about it. Don’t hide in silence just so as to get married to that person — the repercussions would be drastic. You would always reach that point where you can’t take it anymore.

3. KNOW THAT WHAT YOU DON’T CHANGE BEFORE MARRIAGE, YOU SHOULDN’T FORCE WHEN MARRIED
This is another mistake people make, they pretend to be okay with certain habits of their partner and try to change their partner when married. In all honesty, this is being unfair to your partner if your intention isn’t made known earlier. You cannot force your partner to change what you didn’t try to change when dating.

4. SET BOUNDARIES
Relationship isn’t marriage! Relationship isn’t marriage! Relationship isn’t marriage! No matter how in love you are with your partner, your relationship with that special someone isn’t marriage. Set your boundaries, especially in things you don’t want. If you are against late nights out, set your boundaries. All things must be done in purity.

Related: What you need to know about marriage


5. KNOW WHAT YOUR PARTNER WANTS
The first and second tip talks about being open about what you want in your partner and what you aren’t comfortable with as well. You should turn the table around and also know what your partner wants and what your partner isn’t comfortable with. This particular tip is an important etiquette of any  marriage.

6. BE COMMITTED
Commitment is a must as you are intentional concerning your relationship. Every form of nonchalance should be purged out of the relationship. If you can’t be committed to each other then I wonder what you are doing together.

7. INTRODUCE EACH OTHER TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS
You become more committed to each other when your family and friends know that you’re serious about each other.

8. DON’T FORGET TO IMPROVE YOURSELF
Since love is in the air, your partner might completely accept your flaws, but it shouldn’t end there. You owe your partner your best, so always give in your best to improve yourself and reduce your flaws. Your partner would love you more when you do this, and your relationship would be totally prepared for marriage.

9. NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT
There is no perfect person, no perfect relationship and no perfect marriage. Don’t expect because you’re in love and have a good understanding that those hiccups wouldn’t come up eventually. They would eventually come but you shouldn’t let it get the better of you.

10. GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER IN AND OUT
It isn’t advisable to marry someone you don’t know; try to know each other in and out as you proceed marriage. When you do this, you understand each other more, you know your partner better and you have a cohesive relationship. It’s easier to know what to expect from marriage with your partner when you know each other thoroughly, and it’s also easier to know how to treat your partner better.

11. ASSESS AND EVALUATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
People get married just based on how they feel and they forget to evaluate other aspects of the relationship. You might love your partner and your partner might love you too, but it doesn’t end there. Evaluate your relationship to see how compatible you really are and know the level of understanding you’ve reached. Believe me, if your relationship with that person is filled with chaos, quarrels and misunderstanding then your marriage might even be worse.

12.  BE FUTURISTIC
Your relationship should go beyond mere ‘I love you’ talks. Talk about the future with your partner and ask questions when concerned. Talk more about deeper issues and your relationship would be better for it.

13. BE TRUSTWORTHY
Trust is also another important aspect. Be trustworthy, live an open life, curb unnecessary jealousy and your relationship would be better for this and could lead to an even better marriage.

14. MARRY BECAUSE YOU’RE RIGHT FOR MARRIAGE
This is the last tip, but definitely not the least. It’s important to know why you are getting married. Marry for the right reasons, marry because you’re sure, marry because you know that God has brought you both together to fulfill His purpose.

It is unadviceable to go into marriage without due process and when courting takes place, it gives more knowledge of what to expect in marriage; what to do and what not to do; confirm God's calling on both partner. If you merely go into marriage without necessarily preparing for it and following these tips and more, there would certainly be wasted years and you not living in God's will and according to His standards. Know that preparation is key to success. Let us be properly guided.

THE FATHER'S CALL !!!
There is a void in every man that not wealth, fame,social status, sex, drink, fun and the likes can fill. It is only God that can fill that void, what is that void that is missing? It is the absence of JESUS IN YOUR LIFE AND ALL HE OFFERS such as peace, love, righteousness and joy in the Holy Ghost. You have taken the wheel of your life all by yourself and like Peter you have caught nothing with your life, this is the time to allow Jesus Christ into your boat (life) so he can help you to catch the fullness of life in him; making you salt of the earth and light to the world; creating lasting impact.

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