WHEN TO SAY I LOVE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP



Welcome to purposeful living today. The world we live in today cannot be a peaceful place to stay if love is lacking amongst  us. We pray that you express love to as many as you come in contact with today and always. We wish you a week full of blessings and favour.

"Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily" (1 Corinthians 13:4).



The word I love you has lost its potency in our day. Anyone can come and tell you I love you, and for some what they actually say is "I am in lust with you" with the agenda to ruin the life of the other  and to get what they want at the detriment of the person they claim to love.

So when is the right time to say I love you in a relationship heading to marriage. I think it is not something that should be said hastily because of how you feel. It should be said on the basis of knowledge and understanding about what love entails.

To say “I love you” is a big step in a dating relationship. Love carries with it the weight of potential covenant and future intimacy. But how do you know when to say I love you?

The timing of I love you will look different for each couple. Even so, this individuality should be guided by biblical principles. God gives us His wisdom for questions like these.



SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN… IT’S NOT LED BY EMOTIONS.
Some persons are in a dating relationship that quickly becomes physical. There are times that the physical part of that relationship  have made persons believe that being physical is the proof the guy/girl is in love with you. This will actually make you confused and emotionally high without building on  covenant love that is unconditional.

"Displaying inordinate affection can blind you from knowing when it is love and when it is not love".

Our emotions are closely tied to our sexual behavior. It’s one of the reasons I challenge you to think before making out to be in a relationship, to honor God’s design for sex, and to protect the value of your intimate self . When you celebrate sexuality God’s way, your purity protects your emotions. When God’s standards come first, you’ll approach relationships objectively. Your emotions will still play a role, but they won’t dictate your decisions.

By putting Christ before your relationship, you’ll have the wisdom to know whether or not you mean “I love you” in the biblical – not just emotional – sense.

"Don't allow your emotions dictate your decisions".

SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN… YOU MEAN “LOVE” IN ITS BIBLICAL SENSE.

So what is the biblical definition of love? The apostle Paul gives us a great outline in the famous “love passage”, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 :
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
Note that love is always active. Biblical love is either doing something or not doing something: It is actively patient and actively NOT impatient. It is actively kind and actively NOT rude. To love someone is a big responsibility. 

When we say “I love you”, we’re really saying something more like this:
“I will be patient with you. I will be kind to you. I won’t be jealous or condescending or arrogant toward you. I won’t dishonor you, and I’ll put you before myself. I won’t be quick to get irritated. I promise not to keep track of your failures. I promise to uphold purity of mind, body, and spirit, and saturate myself with God’s truth, because I love you. I will protect your person and reputation. I will give you the benefit of the doubt. I will offer hope when no one hopes for you. I will press through difficulty to make us work.”

Is it any wonder that Paul concludes by saying, “Love never fails”? This kind of love when actively lived every day of our lives cannot fail, but humans can.
I hope you were intimidated by the real weight of “I love you”. I hope you realize what a huge proclamation it really is. And I hope you see how absolutely necessary it is for you to be in a thriving relationship with Jesus Christ in order to love this way.


SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN… YOU’VE BUILT A TRUST FOUNDATION.
With the weight of “I love you” in mind, it could be said so quickly. Even though there is no commitment between both of you. You are not to say “I love you” until you mean it the 1 Corinthians 13 way.
You will be at peace saying “I love you” when you have built a trust foundation. It is very important to be friends before dating.  Love each other as friends first,  before you both are  ready to commit to a biblical, covenant love of marriage.
If you uphold purity in your relationship, any love you give can still serve God’s kingdom. When you are in  love with a  person in the biblical sense, that love should first honor God and two honor that person even if that relationship eventually ends. And because of the biblical definition of love, it is possible to love more than one person during your lifetime. We are called to love as Christ loved us regardless of relationship status.

“I love you” should not be taken lightly because of its biblical definition. But also because of its biblical definition, love is bigger than our dating relationships. Christ-like love transcends emotion. It lasts beyond a break-up. It has a kingdom impact that we can’t always see or understand. But that’s why love is so powerful! Though we may fail, the love of Christ in us will not.


You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen.
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