"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls." Proverbs 25:28

I was deceived by my feelings I thought it was love, I never knew it was a chemistry that needs to be studied before I accepting the recommendations of my heart.
I just gained admission into the University as a hundred level student. I attended a fellowship for the first time, which became my one love community on campus. The first day I attended the fellowship, I met a very pretty young lady that almost swept me off my feet. I was so attracted to her, my eyes delighted in what I saw.

I liked her because she was beautiful, very attractive, and she could smile for Africa. The attraction was so strong that I thought she was the "one", you know what I mean lol. I wanted to ask her out, but there was a resistance in me so I knew I had to be patient and give it time, though I almost went out of control. This happened for a very long time. I could not understand how my body reacted whenever I saw her.  I went closer to know if my feelings were telling me the truth. I wanted to know her hidden personality, I mean what she is made up of not just her physical make up that got we attracted to her. I kept asking if this could be that I am in love?

I gave it time, I did not hurry to tell her how I felt I took time to understand why I had feelings for her. I had to talk to myself that my feelings will not control me, it wasn't easy not to be too quick to speak, thanks to the Holy Spirit for always helping me in times like these, because I always ask His direction in my relationship with people. He helped me control my feelings and with time I began to see attributes and character traits in her that I knew I did not like and can't even handle. Even as a friend I knew I could not handle such character traits, and can't think of such whahala (trouble) in marriage.  Although I still liked her but my eyes where opened to who she was that was not compatible with who I am, there was no correlation between both of us.

I said nothing to her, I was a friend from a distance observing her. She never was my close friend and a relationship will be a failure with her. My feelings would have deceived me to begin a journey that God never asked me to begin.


Have you ever had feelings for the opposite sex?

What did you do with the feelings?

Was your reaction like that of a dog to the lady?

Please take note of this:
The truth you must know is that you will certainly have feelings for the opposite sex. So it is not wrong and not a sin to have feelings. The question is how you deal with your feelings, do you allow it control you or you control your feelings? We win or loose by the choices we make.

See also: 10 Golden Secrets You Must Know Before Marriage

Feelings that grows rapidly in the name of love is what is called infatuation. Infatuation makes you see her/him as Mr or Mrs Perfect, you don't see their mistakes or flaws that you know if you will be truthful to yourself, you can't handle. Infatuation makes you irrational in your choice of a relationship.

Love does not grow rapidly, like a seed it is sown and this seed will have to grow over time to become a big tree. The stronger and taller the tree, is as a result of the depth of its ROOT.

LOVE grows with time, don't be in a hurry if not you will be sorry soon (heart break). If a person tells you they love you, allow time define the depth of the relationship. Don't jump into conclusion too soon.

Can you handle their character flaws?

 What if they pretend to love you?

What if they love you because they want to get something from you?

What if they love you just because you are very attractive and in a position to help them?

See also : Signs of a Wrong Relationship

Dear Friend, the best definition of love is TIME. Allow it grow natural, don't fast forward the process. Imagine the consequence of trying to grow a mango tree in one year.
The deeper the depth of your love for each other the more fruitful your relationship becomes.
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