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"Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous". Hebrews 13:4

The institution of marriage is sacred in itself. Whatever that is instituted or established by God is sacred. This means you and I are sacred beings. Many people these days see marriage as the norm of the society they should be involved in without seeking the counsel of God.

The purpose for marriage has been overlooked and in this sense, people go into it basically for pleasure, procreation and maybe, for the short time excitement of being with the one they "love".

That is why in most marriages of today, virtue, sacredness, Holiness has lost its place. Couples live on worldly standards and so create troubles, unrest, anger, infidelity and all sort of fruit that comes with walking in the flesh for themselves.

One of the purpose of marriage aside companionship, procreation, love and others is to serve God. And you cannot serve God when you walk in the flesh and do not understand His will for your life or your marriage. He desires us to show our love for Him through service to others especially to our spouse to glorify Him in the covenant of marriage.

He desires His image and likeness to be seen through our lifestyle. He desires us to handle issues and situations just the way He would handle it if He happens to be the one. He desires our marriage to be an examplary type in Godliness, Peace, Holiness, Joy, fulfilment of purpose; setting the standard for a marriage that glorifies Him.

But in today's marriages, only few are seen to be glorifying God who created it for His own pleasure. Many have fallen into the trap and pit of the world's way leaving God aside and so, enduring their marriage instead of enjoying it.

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Here today, we'll be looking at some points to consider in order to have a healthy and fulfilling marriage. If you're in a relationship and look forward to getting married to your partner, you can also check it out and start practising in your relationship even now. It'll make it easier during marriage.

Consider these 7 Commandments of Marriage...

1. Thou shalt serve one another.
A good marriage practices mutual submission. Ephesians 5:21 commands us to submit to one another out of reverence to Christ. Marriage is not a 50/50 deal. It’s a 100/100 deal — each willing to surrender all to the other person.
How are you at serving your spouse? Would they say you strive to serve them more everyday? Are you more the giver or the taker in the relationship? Be honest.

2. Thou shalt love unconditionally.
Unconditionally means without conditions. (See how deep this blog can be.) I’ll love you if… is not the command. It is I’ll love you even if not. God commands us to love our enemies. How much more should this commitment be strong within a marriage?
Are you loving your spouse even with the flaws that you can see better than anyone else? Here’s a quick test: Does the way you communicate with your spouse indicate you have the highest regard for them — always?


3. Thou shalt respect one another.
The Golden Rule covers this one. Everyone wants to be respected, so in any good marriage respect is granted to and by both parties. And, by the way, I believe respect too is to be unconditional. Respect is mostly given because of actions. But respect is important for both spouses. Most people grant respect only when all conditions are met to be respected. That makes sense, but it doesn’t provide motivation to improve when the other party needs it most. All of us need someone who believes in us even when we don’t believe in ourselves. That’s the grace of respect. When most of us feel respected we will work harder to keep that respect.

4. Thou shalt put no other earthly relationships before this one.
“Let not man put asunder” is not just a good King James Version wedding line. It’s God’s desire for a marriage. Great couples strive to allow no one, even children, even in-laws, to get in the way of building a healthy marriage.
Wow! Isn’t this a hard one? Yet many marriages have been ruined because the children came first or the in-laws interfered. Marriages have been ruined by friends, sometimes co-workers who had little regard for the integrity of the marriage, and so they built a wedge between the couple. As hard as it is sometimes, great couples work to protect the marriage from every outside interruption.

5. Thou shalt commit beyond feelings.
The Bible talks a great deal about the renewal of our mind (Romans 12:2, for example). The mind is more reliable than emotions. You may not always feel as in love as you did the day you married. There will be tough seasons in any marriage. Strong marriages last because they have a commitment beyond their emotional response to each other. And when that’s true for both parties, feelings almost always reciprocate and grow over time.
As true and necessary as this is, great marriage partners continue to pursue each other. They date one another, fostering the romantic feelings that everyone craves in a relationship. Sobering question: When’s the last time you pursued your spouse?

6. Thou shalt consider the other person's interest ahead of thine own.
Again, we are commanded to do this in all relationships. How much more should we in marriage?
Over the years, as couples get comfortable with one another, some become very selfish with their individual time. Sometimes, for example, one spouse pursues a hobby that excludes the other one, and more and more time is committed to that hobby. The other spouse begins to feel neglected. It may be allocation of time, in actions or the words used to communicate, but sometimes a spouse can make the other spouse feel they are no longer valuable to them. Are you considering how you are being perceived by your spouse?

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7. Thou shalt complete one another. 
The Biblical command is one flesh (Ephesians 5). I’m not sure that’s anymore possible than the command that our individual flesh be molded into the image of Christ. It’s a command we obey in process. We are saints still under construction. We still sin. And that process isn’t completed here on earth in my opinion. So it is in a marriage. We never completely “get there,” but we set such a high standard for our marriage that we continue to press towards the goal.
There is no better place where “iron sharpens iron” than in a marriage; that is why as believers, we must mingle with a believer in the same purpose as we are. God bless you.

We hope these 7 tips we call commandments has blessed you. Your mind and heart must be in the right state in order for you to walk in God's will for marriage. And what is this right state we are talking about? It is about being spiritually minded and not earthly or worldly minded(You must renew your mind with the Word of God as written in the Bible). It is about your desires being for God and for His Glory; and this cannot be possible when you do not have a one on one Father Daughter/Son relationship with God.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:

 Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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