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The words "I love you" are now very common words that are used to deceive many into heart breaking and life regretting relationship. Anybody can tell anyone I love you, but it has no true meaning to them. Does the words "I love you" show responsibility to those who uses it or does it show irresponsibility?

The young lady is pregnant for his boyfriend, now the guy has run away and denied the lady and the pregnancy. He once used the words "I love you" to this lady.

The young man who took the financial responsibility of the girl that he intends to marry who was studying in the University always heard the girl use these words " I love you" when he send her money but now she has graduated she left him for another guy. She knew that she will never marry him and was allowing him to invest in her education.

The guy who is hunting for ladies to sleep with when he approaches a lady to woo her, he uses the words "I love you". The lady believes him and then gives in to his proposal but after the guy has gotten what he wants from her he leaves her in disdain and regret.

Amnon onced professed his love for Tamar, to the extent he became love sick. When Amnon raped Tamar the bible says he hated her  with every hatred more than the love he claimed to have for her. He abused her physically and emotionally. ( 2 Samuel 13:1)

The question is how do we verify the authenticity of the words "I love you" especially in our society today?

The first thing we should know is that love is not just about the verbal declaration but the outward manifestation.

"My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth" {1 John 3:18}.

Love is more about ACTION, remember the saying action speaks louder than words. A man can always beat his wife and still say to her baby "I love you ". Does he really love her when his actions are hurting her deeply, making her to live in pain?

Watch out for their actions not just towards you but towards others before you believe their " I love you".

The second thing we should watch out for when people tell us " I love you " is "responsibility". 

"So when they had dined, Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my lambs" { John 21:15}.

Love comes with responsibility. A man that is not responsible for his own life can never be responsible for you and the relationship. If he/she is saying "I love you" they should be responsible to see you grow and not to stop you from growing.

The third thing we should look out for is "maturity". 

"But the LORD said unto me, Say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I command thee thou shalt speak" {Jeremiah 1:7}.

I have always said here that maturity is not in age but the product of your investment in your mind. Maturity is a function of knowledge acquired and applied. Is he spiritually, emotionally, financially, mentally matured to be in a relationship? He is wealthy does not in any way show maturity. He can be wealthy and not be financially matured.

The fourth thing we should look at for is "Sacrifice".  

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life" {John 3:16}.

Love is proved by giving, you cannot love without giving.

Are they willing to sacrifice their convenience. Are they ready to let go of somethings to show that they love you? What are they willing to do that they would not have done just because they love you? Jesus Christ did not just say I love you to us but showed it by sacrificing His life for us on the cross. Sacrifice can be time, resources, pleasures etc for the one you love.

The fifth thing to consider is if the person has the "Fear of God". 

"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility" {Proverbs 15:33}.

 The fear of God is not going to church, praying in tongues, being a leader in church... The fear of God is deep honour, love and respect for God that guides your life. This is a person that God and His word is his number one priority. He does not live life the way he wants but his life is subject to the word of God. This was what Joseph had that made him not to sleep with Potiphar's beautiful wife this is what he said "There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?" {Genesis 39:9}.

A man who fears God will not lead you or pressure you to sin against God in your relationship. Even if he is tempted to, he will repent and not continue in such acts.

A person who fears God will love you passionately because there is an outburst of love in him, for God has poured his love in his heart by the Holy Spirit {Romans 5:5}.

I know you want to be loved, everyone wants to including me, but are we going to do this at the detriment of our lives and envious destiny. God's ways are best for us, let's us follow his ways. His ways are not for our destruction but for our construction to becoming like Jesus Christ and living a glorious life on earth.

The number one way to experience love is you coming into Christ, if you know that God loves you and have experience His love. It will be very easy to detect the person whose saying "I  love you" is not original or from the heart.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you more than anyone on earth and will lead you to a man who will value you by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name. Amen.

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