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"And Ruth the Moabitess said to Naomi, "Let me go to the field, and glean among the ears of grain after him in whose sight I shall find favour"... Ruth 2:2

Being single is not a curse neither is it an automatic blessing to be married. How are you managing your current status? If you are single, then you are very much blessed. First of all you still have a great opportunity to choose the best partner for yourself. Don't spend all your time mourning about your singleness. Don't feel inferior in the midst of your married colleagues. Rather do more of the right things that marriage is preventing others from doing. It is the time for character, financial, career and mental development. In the key verse, Ruth understood this and so, she occupied herself with building herself in order to be an asset and not a liability to the man that will find her.

Singleness is not a plague. Don't feel embarrassed about it. And don't spend all your time desperately thinking and strategizing on how to get the attention of potential partners. You must fulfill the purpose of your singleness. You must be blessed first as a single person.

Many have been made to believe, sometimes through prophecies that their blessings are connected to their marriages. So such people in their singlehood think about nothing than the day a well-to-do man or woman shows up. They literally halt their lives in wait for a superman or woman. That is a destiny demolishing trap.
Mankind is full of unique gifts, given by God. Singleness is a time to maximally use these God-given gifts in you, which makes you unique.

God has designed that everyone must be single before married. Singleness is on purpose. When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If you short-circuit the process of singleness, there will be a problem in marriage.

Many people don’t know the purpose of singleness, therefore, they have abused it; by getting involve in premarital sex (and other sexual immorality), drugs, wrong friendship, wild party, debauchery and other social disorders.

The purpose of your existence is not intrinsically marriage, else our Lord Jesus Christ and Paul, the Apostle did not fulfill purpose on earth. Hence, have a re-think on your existence.
Due to high anticipation of marriage, a lot of people keep looking into the future and neglect the present. So, people concentrate on the future so much that they never lived their present.

No man has ever lived in the future. You are continuously living in the present. So, make the present meaningful. What you do with your singleness which is now is very important. You will surely marry one day but marry as a man or woman who has fulfilled the purpose of singlehood
In Genesis 2:15-18, Adam was pursuing the purpose of his life, tending the garden God gave him and obeying His will. He was not pursuing marriage at all. He never considered marriage because; he was consumed with divine purpose - God’s work. But, God realized he was alone. When you pursue the work God has given to you, God will interrupt your life and introduce your life partner, the right suitor to you. You don’t need to struggle with marital issue, only get busy with your purpose and God’s work.

Again, one of the importance of singlehood is self-identification. Identity realization is the major essence of singlehood. Who are you? What are you made of? What is your temperament? What dream are you pursuing? Which destination are you heading? What is your faith? What is your strength?what kind of woman have you realized that you can love? And what kind of man do you think you can submit to?

Wrong marriage is not just marrying an abusive partner, it is marrying someone who has no Grace at all to partner you in the realization of your destiny. You must ensure that you are spiritually, emotionally, physically and intellectually sound. Can you imagine marrying a shallow person? “Deep calleth unto deep.” The decision of the person you go into a relationship with or marry depends on the level of your spirituality at the time when you make the decision.

How would a man going to America give a lift to a lady who wants to embark on a journey to Togo. Two different people on a journey to two different places yet in one car. Nothing frustrates marriages like two people having totally divergent opinions and focuses in life. This will be a recipe for unending confusion.

You need to understand that, there are beautiful witches and handsome devils. If you can't see beyond the beauty of the woman and the deep pocket of the man, you will surely fall into this trap. If you discover your identity, be patient until you find your PARTNER. Don't rush into marriage. Don't marry to satisfy others. I am not saying don't marry but you know after the beautiful wedding, everyone will leave you to embrace the repercussions or aftereffects  of the choice you have made. The fact that your family, friends and colleagues will be proud about your classy partner or wedding doesn't mean you will be happy in the marriage. It is better to disappoint them and have peace with the one of your choice than to please them with an all-fly lady or gentleman, and suffer later.

Seek God's will, that is the only way YOU CAN FIND FULFILMENT, when you cross into the stage of marriage. Why will you spend so much time being single only to walk into a hell of marriage? We are in an era where people marry for all the wrong reasons. Only God knows the number of people going to the Altar not because it was well planned but because there is a secret pregnancy that must be covered with the marriage. To some they just desperately want someone to take care of them so they marry. Others are concerned with their age. The worse scenario are the ladies who have to constantly fight off several women around the man they want to marry. Find something better to do with your life young lady. No focused man will carry more than one woman along his journey and set them up for embarrassment. It is better to have a homeboy who is your own than to have a glamorous person who has made himself a national cake. If the need be, you just must allow your younger siblings and peers take the lead and marry. And join them later with your perfect choice.

Again I say, it is real  blessing to be single but much more, is a blessing to be married. Keep acquiring the right knowledge as single. Pursue your God-given dreams, and God will surely let you cross path with the best partner.

Maximizing your singlehood now can only be by the Grace of God. If you refuse God to partner with you in this stage of your life, how then can He lead you to the right spouse and make you enjoy marriage? Jesus calls today for you to open up to Him in order that He fills you with His Wisdom and direct your steps. Have you let Him in?

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:

 Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .

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