Welcome to purposeful living today. We are always glad to have you here. A reader is always ahead in life because of the knowledge gained and wisdom applied. We shall however look at the five love languages today in the most concise way. To get this topic in detail, we recommend The book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.

And now, these three remain: Faith, Hope, Love. But the greatest of these is Love. 1 Corinthians 13:13

The Five Love Languages  talks about five different ways (or languages) people show their love for others and feel loved. We’ve all got our preferred ‘language’ and this preference becomes more obvious with age. Love is not only limited between couples or two people in a relationship. As humans, we all have the desire to be loved and also to express love to others. Many a time, we express love to our loved ones in ways that do not express their love language; and so instead of feeling loved by you, they feel unloved.

Our children and family will be enriched and feel deeply loved when we can love them specifically the way they long to be loved.

We all need love shown to us but figuring out the primary love language of our dear ones will help you show them love most effectively. Before you work out your partner's love language, it helps if you can work out your own. Check out the list below, showing the different ways we want love shown to us. Which is yours?

Words of encouragement
It’s very significant to hear others notice and comment on something you’ve done or said. “Thanks for helping”, “We couldn’t do it without you.” The words in notes and cards are important to you.

Gift giving
You love being given a gift that tells you the giver has thought carefully about what you like and what is important to you. When you buy gifts you think long and hard about the person and what they would really like

Acts of service
You feel loved when someone does a job for you so you can have a break, or maybe makes you a hot drink, a cake or does something that costs them something.

Quality time and attention
To have someone give you their full attention and really listen to you, is so meaningful. You feel like they are there for you and that they are enjoying this time with you. Nothing could interrupt it.

Physical closeness and touch
Affection and closeness tells you that you are loveable and people like being with you. It might be someone sitting close to you on the couch, having your hair brushed, your hand held or someone just happy to be in your presence.

All of the love languages are important and the trick is to become fluent in all five. Our children and family will be enriched and feel deeply loved when we can love them specifically the way they long to be loved. It might feel awkward at first because we all tend to want to show love to others the way we like to have love shown to us – and that’s okay, give it time. Being able to love others more fully and deeply is going to be wonderful for all your relationships.

We should be discerning enough to know how our spouse, partner, friend, child etc expects to be love. Every relationship needs love to survive because God Himself who is Love, initiated relationship since the beginning. Relationships will mend and become all that it ought to be if both parties practise the act of showing love according to the others love language.

We should not base our love on conditions of how we are treated by the other. If we do, we limit ourselves and our abilities to love. We are made to understand the greatest love of Jesus Christ, how He laid down His life for us. It is not that we loved Him or we were right with Him. No! But He chose to love us unconditionally. We should also love others unconditionally and show love to them in the way they understand.

In essence, you cannot give what you do not have. In as much as we all have love inborn in us since we have been created in the image after the likeness of He who is LOVE, we can only let this love find expression through us basing it on conditions because of our sinful nature. But if a man be in Christ Jesus, love overflows from his heart and he has plenty of love to give no matter how he is treated.

This is what God expects of us as His creatures. He yearns that we become the people He originally created us to be; not in a fallen state like Adam, but in the regenerated man in His Son, Jesus Christ who made a divine exchange for us on the cross. When we live in Christ, we are able to express love to all and sundry because love becomes our nature as He is love. You can only express unconditional love to your dear ones and express love to them based on their love language no matter how difficult it is if you have accepted the ultimate love of God for you...

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