Welcome to Purposeful living today. Hope you had an amazing weekend? You are destined to reign in Christ Jesus, always believe this. God wants you to have the best relationships I tell you most solemnly.


"The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way"(Proverb 37:23).

The challenge I see all the time among young people is that they are looking for their ideal man and ideal woman.

The truth is, your ideal man or ideal woman is married.

That is why sometimes, some people fall in love with married people. They are not married yet but they fall in love with married people.

You hear them say; oh..he is such a nice man, he has a good job, he is also kind, he has money, such an ideal man, he is this, he is that.  Wonderful!

Most of the time, this guy or lady who looks perfect  was not like that before he or she got married.

If in your vision, you husband is a CEO, can you recognise  him when he is yet a CEO?  That is what am talking about.

When pastor Nike and I  got married, we were not the way we are now. It has taken investment.

This is why I have an issues with guys who are almost turning bachelor holding into an institution.

There are lots of people around town who are not getting married because they want to be able to get a mansion, cars, and money.

They will tell you, how can you marry a girl when you are not yet settled financially and they have already gotten a job. They are waiting to have an ideal financial situation.

I am telling you, if you are in that situation, you have been deceived.

What a lady need is not a perfect man in the present...this thing is about 10years, 20years, 30years, 40years time.

What she needs now is a man  who have a vision, who can define exactly where he is going and who he is going to be. That is what defines the kind of wife he should marry.

When pastor Nike and I got engaged. In fact, it was after we were courting to be married that we discussed our salaries and I discovered that her allowance as a youth corper  was more than my salary as a pastor. And the day I told her about my salary, I quickly told her, you know what? Is not going to be like that forever, I am going somewhere.

I described the future for her and told her, you know what? In fact, even though we will help each other at the beginning but there is coming a time when I will ask you to keep your salary and I will bear the full responsibility for this family fully.

That is the essence of leadership. You have a vision and you have the capacity to communicate it.

You should be able to sell your vision to a lady.

Listen! Ladies, if all of your assessment  about a man; If what you are looking for is who the person is today, you will soon be deceived.

Because the fact that he has a car now, is no guarantee he will have a car in five years time.

Making a choice for marriage is largely a matter of intuition.  Some people, all they think about is the wedding day.

In one day, they invest all their thought, energy and preparation. You hear them say; wedding...hmmm...the gown will come from Singapore.

On the wedding day the Pastor say; say after me and the couple will say "I do"

After that, what next? That is when some people remember there is honey moon. They will do honey moon for two to three weeks.

After that, what next? Nothing! No idea because all they were thinking about was a wedding.

The couple you admire today, when they had nothing there was nothing to admire in them but they have over the years invested in each other and today you admire them.

Be ready to invest in Gold not polished gold that fades with time- invest in your relationship.

You have to build the kind of relationship you want people to admire. So start doing that today, you are not too old or young...

Don't envy anyone's relationship only be challenged to make yours the best by you giving your best.



There is a void in every man that wealth, fame, social status, sex, drink, fun and the likes can't fill.  It is only God that can fill that void, what is that void that is missing? It is the absence JESUS IN YOUR LIFE AND ALL HE OFFERS such as peace, love, righteousness and joy in the Holy Ghost.  You have taken the wheel of your life all by yourself and like Peter you have caught nothing with your life, this is the time to allow Jesus Christ into your boat (life)  so he can help you to catch the fullness of life in him that gives you a meaningful life on earth and defines your eternal destination.

If you want to surrender to Jesus Christ, why not say this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me of my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .

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