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Today we will look at a very popular phrase in this generation " True love does not exist".  I don't believe that true love doesn't exist. I only believe that people will keep getting heart breaks and allow people to abuse them physically and emotionally if they know nothing about love. So let's look at 3 reasons I  figured out by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit why people believe "true love doesn't exist". You can add yours on the comment box, I will love to see your view. Thanks.


"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us"( Romans 5:8 KJV).

1. When you don't know the definition of love:

I have always said that love is not a feeling but it creates a feeling. Many person have the notion that love has to do with the way a person makes them feel good, well that is not love. Love is not about how people make you feel, love is defined by actions, it is an attitude of sacrifice, it confessed through the lips with words just for certainty.

You can tell a person everyday that you love them but you don't show it with your actions. When you do that they believe you are just flattering them.

"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God" (1 John 4:7)

The actual definition of love: 
Love is a person and that person is God. Love is His nature, just as righteousness and holiness is His nature. Love is God's lifestyle. He showed how much he loves us by giving us His only son Jesus Christ to come and redeem us from sin, Satan, the dominion of Satan and hell. Now, when Jesus came to earth, he did not just go about saying I love you to people, his love was backed up by good works. He healed the sick, raised the dead, fed the hungry, cast out demons, put a smile on the faces of people around Him, he was concerned about the welfare of others and ultimately he expressed His love for us by taking our place on the cross where He died so that those who believe in Him will have dominion over the devil, no longer struggle with sin but will become the Righteousness of God in Him. His love for us was not based on what He would get in return but for us to have a better life and restore us back to having a relationship and fellowship with our Abba Father.

" love is not saying I love you and expressing good actions but backed up by evil intentions."

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The person who claims He loves you only does so because of what he wants to get from you and you still decide to continue the relationship with him in the name of love and your fear of losing Him. You will not only loose him if you don't leave the relationship, he will do you something that will leave a life time scar in your heart.
The Bible gives us the definition of love  in 1 Corinthians 13. Please take out time to study this Chapter of the Bible before going into a relationship. It gives us the Characteristics of love.

2. When you don't love yourself:
When you have received love from God, now you are able to love yourself and give love to others . You cannot give what you don't have. Believe in God's love for you, personalize this truth of God's love for you. Keep saying GOD LOVES ME no matter the circumstances and no matter what you do.
If you don't know God loves you, you will hate you and you will definitely hate others. There is no unconditional love outside God. While I was growing up as a teenager I was full of anger, hatred, malice and everyone was always a suspect to me because I thought they were all against me. I did hurt people around me especially my class mates because I was not loved and was so much in need of love. It was in my last attempt to commit suicide when I had an encounter with God who told me He loved me and He began to teach me about Love... That was the beginning of something new in life, my life took a new turn. I became more loving to people, I began to think of how to make people happy and positively impact them. It was then I began to love myself for who I am and began to appreciate God for the way He created me without any sense of feeling inferior, which the devil was using against me before I had that encounter with God.

" You must build a heathy relationship with yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with another self".

Friend until you are able to love you, don't think of a relationship now. Grow into maturity in the love of God for you. Feast on Jesus through the study and meditation of God's love for you in His word.
No human can love you more than God and no one can fill His vacuum in your life. You will be able to love you as you receive and believe in the love God has for you.

"He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love" (1 John 4:8 KJV).

When you think love is sex: 
Most people think that love is sex, let me share with you this story:

There was once a girl called Amanda. She was beautiful, intelligent, shy but very cheerful. And, she was voluptuous. The only problem was, she was head over heels in love with a guy called Xolani, who was also known as “X”. He went to the same school as Amanda. Xolani was the most popular guy at school for his looks, his love for sport and for his love of the girls.
Amanda never told anyone how she felt about Xolani and she never cared about what other students had to say about him. They would say things like, “You know Xolani – he’s got the looks and all that but, hey, he’s a troublemaker and a heartbreaker.”
She would just giggle at this and shake the words from her head. In fact, it just made her love for Xolani grow stronger and stronger.
Xolani never noticed Amanda, no matter how hard she tried to express herself to him, until one day…
As they were busy rotating between classes, they bumped into one another. Amanda dropped her books and Xolani helped to pick them up. As they were both picking up the books – only one was left on the floor and they both stooped to pick it up simultaneously. Neither let go of the book. They gazed into each other’s eye and there was a chemistry between them that neither could explain. Eventually Xolani let go of the book and they parted ways.
Amanda never stopped thinking about what had happened. She was determined to tell Xolani how she felt. Once again, the problem was that she didn’t know where to start because she had never spoken to him before. She was also scared – it was rare for a girl to declare her love for a boy.
On the other hand, Xolani never stopped talking to all his friends about this girl he had met. He then decided to tell the girl – little and lovely Amanda – how he felt. She accepted Xolani as her boyfriend.
After a while, Xolani started nagging Amanda to have sex with him. But she wasn’t comfortable with this. But, as she was scared of losing him – she was so besotted with this guy – she finally agreed.
But, after they had sex, Xolani told Amanda to get dressed and go away. Once she’d left, she realised that he hadn’t said “I love you”…
It turns out that Xolani was never interested in Amanda. He only wanted to sleep with her and then to be rid of her. Amanda was devastated and she gave up on her life.
All in all, real love does not exist." Source: Fundza Mobi

The story of the young lady is the same attitude most ladies have about love. They think love is sex and they give sex to a guy to keep Him. You can't keep him, he will only keep you from the right man for you. You are only helping him to have fun with you until the one his heart yearns for comes and he will then send you packing out of his house and life.

Only those who have renewed their minds with God's word and have a very intimate relationship with Him are able to say no to the devil who wants to destroy their destiny.

You don't comprise your purity and destiny in the name of love that is actually lust or infatuation but not Love!

The media has made us think that love is sex, that is why when you watch a movie there will always be a sex  related scene to make people believe that love is all about sex. Well the devil is not sleeping, He wants people to go to hell and he has agents through which the does that in every strata of life especially in the media. Love is not a person looking sexy. Love is not those ponographic pictures and videos that you watch. Love is not foreplay to sex such as kissing, caressing, smooching etc. These are lies the devil has brain washed this generation with, that is why a guy can't take his eyes lusting after a particular body feature of a gorgeous lady and same with the lady. Dear Friend, until you renew your mind through the word of God and hold on to the Love of God for you, people will continue to break your heart and you will keep posting on Facebook that true love does not exist.

"If you don't do things God's way, don't expect God's result. It is in doing things God's way you find the love, Peace and Joy you seek for in your relationship."

A man who loves God will love you as Christ Loves the Church because He receives this unconditional love from God.

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A woman who loves God will not find it difficult to submit to a man because she has submitted to Christ. So she has no fear of insecurity because her security is in Christ alone.

"And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us" (Romans 5:5 KJV).

The challenge of If true love exist is actually the challenge of if you know and believe in God's love for you. If you know that God has the best for you as He  gave you Jesus Christ (Heavens Best) to give you redemption. He wants you to know He can give you the best relationship and best  person for you that will not break your heart but will love, cherish and protect your heart.

This will happen only if you have a relationship with Him your heavenly Father. The more a daughter gets closer to her Dad the more she knows she is loved and the more favour she will receive from her loving Father. Come closer to your Heavenly Father...

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ who loves you more than anyone on earth and will lead you to a loving relationship by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you to forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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