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I also so happy that you are here and I believe that this article will inspire you by the help of the Holy Spirit to treating girls in love. I pray you will experience the favour of God today in your relationship with people. You are blessed and I love and celebrate you.

"Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity " ( 1Timothy 5:1-2 KJV).

We live in a generation where we have lost our values for our emotions, we live now live based on how we feel not based on what is right in the sight of God.
Society now applauds acts of indiscipline that were formally scorned at. You see a guy will sit down to plan and ruin the destiny of a  young girl, even it if she is matured enough or not. Guys in their groups now play the babe hunt game, where a guy is asked to woe a particular girl with just one aim which is to sleep with her and when he has completed his mission, he forgets about the girl (she is now his past tense). A guy can play this game for months just to get what he wants, he can invest his pretentious emotions, money, time, gifts and will do anything to make you feel that you are the love of His life. But he just have one mission, when his mission is accomplished he leaves your life and heart broken and you begin to ask God this funny question " why me?"

Ladies be wise, smart and discern fast before your emotions begin to remote control you lol.

Bros God gave you that mouth not to woo that babe to your bed. You have studied the act of wooing women because you learnt they are very emotional and can be swept of their feet by the power of your sweet words. You have spent time  cramming love poems just to destroy the future of a girl (someone's wife and mother). This is ungodly and evil!

Is this how God actually wants us to relate with girls as guys? No so at all!
Do you see ladies as sex tools, as a public latrine where you can just come and dump your emotional excesses and live them heart broken?

Will you be happy if a guy does that to your sister or your wife?

Let's not do to others what we will not have them do to us.

Related: God's will in opposite sex friendship.

"And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour" ( Ephesians 5:2 KJV).

What is the responsibility  number one of a guy to lady?
I know in your mind you dey say wetin concern you, na my sister?
She is your sister oh, it is just that we came from different families, we came from Adam and eve nor forget this one oh and also in Christ Jesus we are brothers and Sisters (for those who have accepted Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and saviour).

I remember a friend of mine sharing with me how a girl said that she does not believe that love exist, so they probed further  to know why she thought so and she said she doesn't believe in love because all the guys and men that have told her I love you have all slept with her, so her definition of love was sex. This is not God's agenda, it is satanic.

God's will for us is to walk in love not in lust which leads to immorality.

The number one duty of a guy is to love a girl just the way God loves you, a love that has no conditions attached to it. A love that reveals the person of Jesus in your relating with them. They should see you as their younger/ elder brother that cares for them and wants the best for them. This love is what protects a girl, from other guys and  yourself (acting based on your desires rather than based on affection like a Father will do to her daughter).

"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another" ( John 13:34 KJV).

Jesus is my number one role model, as a single that relates a lot with sisters in counseling them. I had to sit down to study on how Jesus related with the opposite sex. 
I found out the following, this I believe is what He expects us to do:

1. He made them better not bitter than He met them, ask the woman who he met at the well ( John 4).

2. He did not take advantage of the vulnerability of any Lady, ask the woman who anointed his feet ( John 12).

3. He used his mouth to build and not to seduce them. How did He do this? He did this by sharing the gospel with them, you can ask Mary and Martha. Share God's word with your friends, build each other in the faith ( Luke 10:38-43).

4. He went to their home not going to their homes to sleep with them, he did not even go there alone or when no one was at home. He went to their homes to put smiles on the faces of everyone by sharing the gospel to them and being compassionate to them (John 11).

5. His relationship with them was on Purpose; He did not turn a ministerial relationship into a romantic relationship just because of his desires.  No Sir! He dealt with them on purpose, He knew the role He had to play in their lives. 

Your relationship with the opposite sex must be defined, you should know why  she is close to you.

My brother God loves you and wants you to share his love to the girls around you not to abuse and use them.

They are God's previous Princess even if they  don't know it now.

He wants you to call her with no ulterior motives.

He wants you to be there for her as a brother without thinking of what you will get in return.

He wants you to give her gifts as He gave you the gift of eternal life and Himself as a show of love unconditional not on the basis of your erotic desire.

I always ask myself these questions from my early teens when I knew I had a ministry to talk to sisters about building a Godly relationship, discovery and fulfilling of purpose in Christ and unveiling the love of God to them.

These questions I believe will also help you:
1.This girl I am talking to now, what will she remember me for?

2.In years to come and she is married can she gladly introduce me to her husband as someone who has been a blessing to her or she will hide when she sees me?

3. What legacy am I leaving for my children as regards relating with the opposite sex, will I be able to tell them how by the Grace of God I had and still have an impactful relationship with sisters?

4. The way I am relating with this girl now can I do so with her as a married woman that I will not like a treat to her marriage?

5. If i am married will my wife be comfortable with the way I relate with the opposite sex?

6. Is God glorified in my relationship with her?

7. This girls that is very vulnerable and close to me today because she feel safe around me, if I take advantage of her vulnerability, when she becomes strong enough to make decisions, will she appreciate me for being there for her or will she regret ever knowing me because of my immoral actions?

Guys let's protect the ladies around us, it is a seed you sow for your daughters and even those dear to you that you don't people to hurt.

Related:  When God writes your love story

Brothers we can make a difference in a world that is full of lots of indifference, Noah did, Lot and His two daughters who were living in Sodom and Gomorrah did... We can do this by the help of the Holy Spirit  who opens us to receive  the love of Jesus Christ and this only happens when you surrender your life to Jesus Christ. He will pour His love in your heart, you can't give what you don't have. If you don't have love you can't give it.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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