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Never Forget that God orders the step of the righteous (Psalm 37:23). It is my prayer that God will order your step into Victory as you allow Him lead you this year. We love and Celebrate you. Thanks for coming, we believe this post will inspire you.

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This Sister was a beautiful Sister that loved God, dedicated in service to God in the choir, but she was lured into the act of sexual immorality by a brother who was one of the influential leaders of the choir in her church. Yes, she fell into the wrong relationship, the person who she thought will take her deeper in God ended up taking her far from God. They were cohabiting together and living in the sin. It was not they issue of they did it first time and repented but they continued in it going to church and still sing in the choir. As far as I know she was even emotionally and physcially abused by this brother. She lost her respect and dignity. She could not fulfill God's purpose for her life, the devil blinded her eyes to the glorious future God has for her...

This is what the wrong friendship has done to many in the Church.

Whose fault was it that the sister was lured into the act of immorality, was it the fault of the sister or the brother?
If the Sister was sensitive to the Holy Spirit I am sure God would have revealed the brother's intention to his precious daughter...

You call him brother in Christ, is He actually in Christ?

When I saw the lifestyle of these Christians as a teenager who were my neighbors, it gave me a very important lesson which was to be prayerful and spiritually sensitive to those who I choose as my friends.

This experience is the reason why I share with you today on how to choose friends in Church that will not hinder our walking in righteousness, protect not destroy our destiny and living for the glory of the Father. This is just a part of what the lord taught me before I began having friends.


"Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners" (1 Corinthians 15:33).

The church is one of the best place to meet with great people who love God and choose destiny friends, but it can also give you a very bad experience with people if you don't understand the dynamics of friendship being led by the Holy Spirit. This is because the church is a place which is like a rehabilitation center, it accommodates different kind of people, like those who are born again, homosexual, cultist, liars, fornicators, thieves, etc.

"The Church actually means the body of Christ not the building or domination you belong. You can be in the Church (the building) but not part of the Church (the body of Christ)".

It accommodates all kind of people because of the love of Jesus, and by the Grace of God they get saved. There are people who come to church and are active church workers but have no relationship with Jesus Christ, they come to church to fulfill all righteousness, so that people will not say that they are pagans. There are some persons who come to church with an assignment from the devil to destroy destinies.

"The church is not for perfect people but for perfecting people."

Even among those who are believers,  there are people whose values and lifestyle is not consistent with the culture of the kingdom of God.
We have seen how active church members and workers are living in sexual immorality, without seeing anything wrong with it. These persons will sing, teach, preach and do so many things in the name of God, yet still live in sin.

If they are fire brand in your eyes, are they fire brand in the eyes of God. Do they have intimacy with God?
Activity is not spirituality oh!

I remember an encounter I had with a brother who saw nothing wrong with malpractice, he was doing it and was corrected but I was shocked at the way he fine tuned it to be right.

I have seen persons who engage with sexual conversations on social media with church members.

I was recently told of an intercessor in Church who has been an homosexual for about 25 years. Only God knows the number of persons he has made homosexuals in Church. We have to be sensitive to who we choose as friends.
This makes choosing friends in church kind of complicated with our senses especially when you want to live in righteousness but it is not difficult for us to choose the right friends if we allow the Holy Spirit to lead us.

"With the partnership of Holy Spirit in our choice of friends we can separate sheep from wolves."

let's look at how to choose friends in Church:
1. Prayer: 

"Pray without ceasing" (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
Prayer is an invitation of fellowship with your heavenly Father who loves you. Prayer is the number one key in choosing friends, Jesus before choosing his friends and apostles had to pray (Luke 6:12). In prayer we receive the gift of discernment of spirit to discern the good from the bad, the sheep from wolves. It is in prayer you seek His will for your friendship and He will surely lead you to destiny friends that will add value to your life. It in prayer the Holy Spirit leads us to the persons He knows we can enjoy friendship with. Don't just go about choosing friends without praying, you don't know who is who but God knows everyone. I am privileged to have great friends around me and these friends God led them to me, I know why they are my friends because I spend time praying before choosing them as friends. In prayers some persons that I wanted to be my friends were ruled out because of some things the Holy Spirit revealed to me about them that I could not fit into their lifestyle.

2. Fear of God:
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction" (Proverb 1:7 NIV).

You know I don't want to use the term born again here because if you ask some one are you born again? They will answer you in the affirmative. This is why I choose to use the fear of God, because one of the proof that you are born again is that you have the fear of God. The fear of God is your reference for God, which is based on love and honor for God. A person who has the fear of God will not live in sin and will like Joseph flee from the sin. A man who fears God will live as the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus in all he does.

3. Character:

"As in water face reflects face, So the heart of man reflects man" (Proverbs 27:19).

My friend before you want to be friends with a person, can you be a  friend to yourself? Do you smile or always get angry? Are you truthful? Do you have the fear of God as you are looking for one that has the fear of God? Is your character consistent with the principles of the kingdom? Do people run from you because of your character?
Now after you have check yourself and make necessary amendments so that the precious people God will bring your way will not leave you because of your character you can now ask the following questions about them:
What are their values and belief system? Do they have respect and honour for people?
Do they look down on others and speak ill of them?
Do they walk in love?
Do they easily angry?
What is their attitude towards service to God?

Do they believe in sexual purity?
How do they relate with opposite sex, is it giving glory to God?

4. Purpose:
"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven" (Ecclesiastics 3:1).

It is not enough to choose friends but you should know the purpose why you are friends with them, this is what determines how you relate with them. It determines your investment in the friendship. Friendship without purpose is destructive to your destiny.

5.Be a Worker:
"If anyone serves Me, he must follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also; if anyone serves Me, the Father will honor him" (John 12:26).

If you want to build the right friends in Church you should not be a Sunday or service day Christian. Join the youth group in your church and mingle with them. Join a ministry or unit and serve God there with the gift He has given you. As a worker you will meet with fellow workers that love God and that have mutual interest with you that you can choose as friends.
It is my prayer that the Holy Spirit will lead us to the right friends that will help us to fellowship with God more intimately and not take us away from the presence of God and those of us that have chosen the wrong friends, receive Grace to walk out of such friendship that is at the expense of your glorious destiny in Jesus mighty name. Amen.

You can begin a relationship now with the Lord Jesus Christ that will lead you to the right friends in Church by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .

If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.
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