SHOULD AGE BE A BARRIER TO LOVE AND MARRIAGE?

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I begin with this verse of scripture "The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way" ( Psalms 37:23 KJV). Who is ordering your step in the choice for a life partner?



Age has become a barrier to so many persons when it comes to relationship and marriage. When a guy is interested in a girl one of the first things he wants to know is how old is she, that is what determines if He will marry her or not, not concerned about if they both love each other, age not withstanding. You will hear some ladies say I can't marry a guy I am older than not even if the age difference is one day...na wa for you oh.
They give reasons like they will see the guy like their younger brother and will not be able to respect and submit to Him...Hmmm.

The guy will say the girl will not respect him if the age gap is not much; that was what I was made to believe then, so I wanted to marry a girl that I will be older than with 10 years, thanks to God who delivered me from that mindset.
A guy will say he can't marry a guy from a certain age because she is not matured. As though maturity is measured by age, maturity is measured by your ability to handle issues. It is based on knowledge you have acquired over time, an 18 years old girl can be more matured than a 30 years old girl.
We have created so many touch not, do not, taste not when it comes to relationship.

You say you can't marry a woman that is not a virgin, why?

You say you must marry a graduate if not you will not marry, why?

You say you must marry a wealthy man, if a guy who is not wealthy comes to you, you look at the guy with disdain, now you are still waiting for a wealthy man and you are 35, why?

You say you can't marry a girl that is not from your tribe, all the girls you have dated did not come from your tribe, you are approaching 40 still single, why?

You say you must marry a fair lady if she is not you will not marry, why?

You say you can't marry a younger guy, he loved you but was your younger in age, you rejected him, now you are still waiting...why?

Related: Can I love a person at first sight?

There are so many limitations we have placed in our minds, that is not consistent with the will of God for us, we have to pull down those mindset to allow God do His work in us.


What does the bible have to say about this?
The bible did not say anything about age gap as a rule for marriage, it only said that man should love his wife and a woman should submit to the man with age not withstanding.  We also saw in scriptures that some persons had age gap in their marriage like Abraham and Sarah age difference was like 10 years. It was also recorded that Ruth and Boaz had a significant age difference. These are not standards for a relationship. Can we say if a man is older than a woman, they marry in God's will and if it is the opposite it is not God's will? We must be led by Him as His children to make choices in life.
In heaven there is no age there, it is here on earth sin made man to live in "time" instead of living in "eternity". God lives in eternity man is limited by time, but man was created in eternity before the fall. Adam and Eve were created in the dimension of eternity but sin brought them to time.  This is where age began and this is why some people believe that God must be an old man, in heaven there is no old age in heaven, they are forever young there and that is how we will be when we get there. Glory to God!

Dear friend, you have the power to make your own choice, but as His child His will is best for you even if you don't recognize it now, it will speak forth later. Submit to His will above yours. He is the potter you are the clay. Allow Him do His job. This was what Jesus did while on earth when He submitted to the will of the Father, though He was God.


Does age gap matter in a relationship?
Age gap is first a product of a mindset, this mindset is based on our belief system from our environment ( culture, custom and tradition) the need of man;  the need for compatibility, love and respect. This is what I see as the sum total of why people don't want to marry a certain age,  I will like to see yours in the comment section.

"For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God" (Romans 8:14). Be led...


The Danger of setting age limit?
Setting age limit without knowing God's plan for you or having a belief system about relationship/ marriage that is not in God's plan for you is dangerous.
This is one of the reasons for delayed marriages and people getting married to a person that is not in God's will for them.
The story of a particular minister of God who married a woman who was against God's will for his life, still comes fresh in my mind because I learnt a powerful lesson from that story on marrying based on God's leading. When I looked at what this powerful man of God went thorough with this woman who was a torn in his flesh. This man was a greatly used by God, he will pray for days none stop, God opened supernatural dimensions to Him, like going for a crusade to another country without any means of human transportation, God will take him and his team there and bring them back when they are done. But this powerful man missed it in marriage.
The problem began when he did not marry the woman God was leading him to because the woman was a single mother...
Why do we place limitations that God has not placed and live based on the opinions of others?
Who told you that if you marry her she will disrespect you?
Who told you if you marry him you can't respect him?
If you have a problem with health or procreation i have seen and read the stories of people what gave birth to children in their late 50s, is there anything too had for God to do?


God's will is not to make you ill, and He will not force His will on you, but His will is Best for you!


I believe this post is for some body among the thousands of people who will read this article.

Yes, God is telling you to change your mindset and allowing Him lead you. He has the best plan for your life.
If you are a child of God you are to be led by the Spirit of God. When you meet people you love and you will like to marry, seek the face of God, know His will about it, if He says  go you go, if He tells you not to go you relax and wait. He will surely  lead you to the person He has destined for you, don't be traditional but be transitional.
           



"Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established" ( Proverb 16:3 KJV).


All I am saying is walk in line with God's will after you have set your standard present it to Him for screening. If He screens any of your desires out it is because it is not in line with His will for you, other people can have it but not for you.
"A man's heart deviseth his way: but the Lord directeth his steps" ( Proverbs 16:9).
I know you are asking why? This is because God's dealings with us are peculiar. He led Abraham's servant to get a wife for Isaac from his kindred, but  told Hosea to go and marry a prostitute... Dealings are different, please understand this so you don't use people as a standard. Thanks for reading, see you on Friday for another inspiring article.
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