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" God did not create opposite sex friendship to be complicated, he said it was too when he created it".

One question I kept asking God from my early teen was  what His plan was for Friendship with the opposite sex? You will agree with me that friendship with the opposite sex is a friendship today that is kind of complicated and has been grossly abused. It is difficult today to build friendship with the opposite sex without there being a hidden motive.  Can we not just be friends and enjoy friendship with the opposite sex? What is the problem with us in this generation,  that we  find it difficult to build Godly friendship with the opposite sex  with no strings attached?
We now build friendship based on our feelings not based on purpose and destiny,  I think this is the problem.  A boy meets a charming beautiful girl and the next thing that comes to His mind is for the girl to be his girlfriend,  he wants to possess her.

This is as a result of a polluted and unrenewed mind,  that is master minded by the devil through the mass media by making us believe that we are to act based on how we feel.

As a Christian that seeks to please God with your life have you asked God what His will is opposite sex friendship? Instead of you going to abuse the friendship, don't be in a hurry, sit down and discover His will in that Friendship.

Many have lost divine friendships because we have allowed their emotions to motion them in such friendship. I will not deny the truth that opposite sex friendship can be complicated,  because of the chemistry we share...

" Complications in opposite sex friendship begins when there is no definition of Purpose".

Friend,  it does not matter the chemistry,  God has an agenda in the friendship. He did not just create us to have only a marital relationship with the opposite sex (wife/husband), It is more than that.

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Oh! how the beauty and glory  of opposite sex friendship that has been trampled by the devil to hinder us from the joy in this friendship made by God.   God created opposite sex Friendship from the beginning and everything he created is Good.  The origin of friendship began in the garden of Eden before the fall,  God had an intimate friendship with man, so did Adam and Eve.  Though this context is always used for marriage but we can see the importance of friendship to God that He did not allow man to live alone.

"Are you their friends on the basis of mutual interest or on the basis of your feelings for them? Walking based on feelings is the first step to complicate your opposite sex friendship".

In the new testament let's look at our Lord Jesus Christ,  the new Adam,  he did not marry but developed healthy and holy friendship with opposite sex some of which are Mary Magdalene,  Mary and Martha, sisters of  larazus, etc. These are the ones I noticed you can share yours with me.

You must know that opposite friendship is beautiful if done with:

1. Definition of purpose: By this I mean you define your friendship,  you must know why a person is your friend,  what they are in your life for and what God wants you to do in their lives. You then stick to the purpose of the friendship.

2.In Purity: This is surrendering your friendship to the governing influence of the Holy Spirit.  There are unholy things you can't do in such friendship. Your aim should be to please and honour God in the friendship.

3.Live by the Word: God's word reveals His will,  so we must walk in line with His word for example look at this verse:

1."Rebuke not an elder, but in treat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; 2. older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity." (1Timothy 5:1-2 KJV).

You see from the above passage Apostle Paul telling Timothy his son in the Lord on treating young girls as sisters,  not as sex tools, not an emotional expression channel,  not an expression of erotic desires. He said treat them in all purity, which means walking in the fear of God and doing His will in the friendship. This is one of the principles in God's word about opposite sex friendship.

"Your future is so bright that you make decisions based on your feelings "

4. Walk in Love: You don't fall in love but you walk in love.  This is because when you walk in love; you walk with God, because God is love.  Read 2 Corinthians 13 on the Characteristics of love.

5. Understand your Role in their lives: Don't from friendship you begin to act like a lover,  their husband or wife. You act as though you are their parent, na wa for you oh. Walk by principles and set boundaries for yourself when relating with them, to avoid temptations.  Depend of God's Grace and not on your strength.

6. What is your motive for friendship with the opposite sex? No matter how you feel you must have the motive of honouring God in the friendship not yourself or the devil.  Always remember that the Girl who is your friend is God's Princess and the Boy is God's Prince and we are first brothers and sisters in Christ before anything else,  we must treat ourselves in love unconditional, honour and respect...

 7. Pray: Prayer is key in building anything in life. When we don't pray we faint ( Luke 18:1). This is why most people faint in their friendship with opposite sex.  The power of prayer can never be overemphasized, especially as we want to build friendship with the opposite sex for the glory of God. You must spend time to Pray for your friends, so you can align yourself to walk in God's will in the friendship.

There is a void in every man that not wealth, fame,social status,  sex, drink, fun and the likes can fill.  It is only God that can fill that void, what is that void that is missing? It is the absence JESUS IN YOUR LIFE AND ALL HE HAS TO OFFER such as peace, love, righteousness, joy in the Holy Ghost...  You have taken the wheel of your life all by yourself and like Peter you have caught nothing with your life, this is the time to allow Jesus Christ into your boat (life)  so he can help you to catch the fullness of life in him that gives you a meaningful life on earth and defines your eternal destination.

If you want to surrender to Jesus Christ why not say this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me of my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught to fellowship there.
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