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"When we live based on our emotions without putting our emotions under control we will  motion ourselves out of God's plan in our relationship. "

"My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth" ( 1John 3:18).

One of the questions that pops up in the minds of young people is actually if love at first sight truly exist. The entertainment industry have painted a very perfect and beautiful picture of love at first sight making it very real and such movies have indoctrinated so many people with the concept of love at first sight. They tell us you meet someone today you are in love with, you know so much about them and you even have a carnal knowledge of them in one day, how possible is that in real life. It is possible to those who act as fools, who have no vision for their future and have no control over their own spirit.

"He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls" ( Proverbs 25:28).

What is concept love at first sight?
According to Wikipedia Love at first sight is a personal experience and a common trope in literature in which a person, character, or speaker feels an instant, extreme, and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger on the first sight of them. Described by poets and critics since the dawn of Ancient Greece , it has become one of the most common tropes in Western fiction.

The concept of love at first sight is a believe system that you can be in love with a person at the first time you meet them, with a desire to begin a relationship with them that ends in marriage, while for some it is for fun and when they are done they break the relationship. This is where most love at first sight ends - heart break.

What we call love at first sight is actually attraction or chemistry at first sight.

When you go to a grocery store and a particular product caught your eyes, what you do is to get to where the product is to know what the product is use for and if it will be useful for you. When you see the that the product will be very useful to you, it increase your desire to want to have a buy of the product, but before you do that you have to know the cost of the product if you can afford it. If you can afford it you go with it but if can't afford the product you wait until you can afford it.
This is what most people call love at first sight they see a product that is attractive to them, without knowledge of what the product is about, they buy because they have the money and by the time they get home they then discover the product was not useful for them, they end in regret - money and time wasted...

Yes! it is true when you saw them, there was a very strong connection you had with them - instant flow of connection and communication.

It is true there was an unexplainable tingling feeling you had in your body for that person; perhaps you have not had such feelings for anyone before.

It is true you like the personality of the person and you opened up to them because they were very inspiring.

You like their appearance, they way they speak, their warm and friendly personality...

But love is more than what you see in one day in a person. What if the person is pretending?

Love is a process, it begins slowly and its roots gets deeper.

Now hear this, it is normal for you to have feelings for her/ him this is what makes you an emotional being; but you must analyze  what you feel, this is what makes you a logical being.

The bible says you should not begin a building without counting the cost. You should know some things about the person before you can say you are in love and commit to them.

Do you know their character make up?

Do you know their  values and belief systems if it correlates with yours?

Do you know where they are from and their family background, that person you are attracted to may be your relative oh?

Do you the kind of relationship they have with God?

Do you know their dreams in life and if you can walk with them in fulfilling it?

What do they do to earn a living?

Let's us not just jump into an euphoria conclusion to say we are "in love" you could just be "in lust or infatuated". 

Allow time to define if what you feel is genuine before you commit in a relationship/marriage. Infatuation can last for between one to seven months and as far as two years, this is when they say love is blind because feelings was not put under control.

The best test of love before commitment is TIME.

Time will make you know if it is love or lust.

Dear, give that feeling time before going into a relationship/ marriage.
This is the reason why the rate of divorce is very alarming, people marry today and divorce today because of what they call irreconcilable differences. If these couple were not guided by their feelings and where diplomatic based on What they want and need in a relationship,  they would have seen the attitude that brought their marriage apart while they were in courtship.  

Love at first sight can make a person to pretend to be who they are not, but when you allow time define your decision and walk with self control. You will certainly discover that the person is pretentious before the relationship becomes contentious.

Please don't get me wrong, attraction/ chemistry is what begins the process of love  in a romantic relationship but I don't think it should be called love a first sight because I don't believe you can love a person at first sight. - love is based on Knowledge which happens over time as you spend time together. You can be attracted at first sight and that gives you the desire to want to know more about the person which defines if you are in love with them or not.

Love is more than a feeling it is an attitude of commitment to care about a person for life.

To say you are in love you are saying you commit your life for their advancement. This was what Jesus Christ did on the cross, giving us his life so we can have the best in life. Giving is one of the proof of love.
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life" (John 3:16).

You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.
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