WHAT A GUY SHOULD KNOW BEFORE FINDING A WIFE! PART 3

Welcome to purposeful living today. It is with great joy in my heart I welcome you my dear reader to this amazing day. I hope you are having a great day? I am privileged to always have you visit this blog to know  more on how we can all build a purposeful relationship to the Glory of God.
The future you can't picture your can't feature in. God will only give you as far as you can see. What do you see about your martial relationship?


We began this series on Monday. I will love you read the Part 1 and Part 2 if you just joined us so you can be on the same page with us. Thanks.

So, today we will be looking at the last thing in this series a guy should know before finding a wife:

A Guy should know his number one responsibility to his wife:
Marriage is about being responsible and a man is responsible for the kind and type of relationship he wants to build. God made man to be a leader in  his relationship, so he is to lead his wife. He is to teach and lead his wife in the ways of God. He is to lead his wife in the fulfilment of purpose. He is to lead his wife to the type of marriage God has revealed to him. This is why it is important that a man must discover his purpose, know God and receive instructions from Him that he and his wife will live by ( Genesis 2:16-17).
A woman will not come to you as a finished product of the help meet you desire. She will come as an unfinished product that you have to nurture and cultivate for productivity. The seed in her will find no expression until you discover and harness them. You are mandated by God to bring out the best in her, so learn to cultivate your wife.
The the number one responsibility of a man to his wife is to love her unconditionally.
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25).
You see the Bible did not say husbands love your wife. If that was what is said then we will need to use the Oxford Advanced learner's Dictionary 8th Edition to search for the definition of love. But the Bible  did not end there it says "love your wife even as Christ loves the Church that he gave himself for it". My God! This love is beyond your feelings Sir. Imagine the agony, suffering, heart breaks, beatings, betrayal, rejection... that Jesus went through in showing His love for us His church.
I hear most men complain about their wives, they don't know that it is their responsibility to build the wife they want to see through the power of love. You cannot sow the seed of love to your wife and not get the fruit of her submission to you. The truth is that for some women it may take time to start seeing the fruit of submission but don't give up.  The problem is that most men want a submissive woman without being a loving man. 
It is your duty to sanctify  your wife before God and you.
"That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:26-27).
To sanctify means to set apart or make holy. You sanctify her before God by making her not to live in sin but to work in righteousness, like I said earlier you are responsible for her spiritual growth. You do this my teaching her the word, praying together, having constant fellowship with God together. You must price your relationship with God above your relationship with each other if you want to build a marriage and relationship that will stand in test of time.
You sanctify her before you by the way you see her, do you see her based on her weakness, her past or the evil reports people give about her that is not true? Let your picture of her be on her strength, her positive character traits, her gifts and potentials that you admire. The picture you have about her will determine the future you will feature her in your life. The words you speak to her should cleanse her from any character trait that is ungodly and in turn make her a virtuous woman. If you call her a mad woman that she will become for you. Whatever you call her she will become, it was Adam that named his wife Eve. So mind the name you give to your wife.
A man is to protect his wife not to turn his home into a boxing ring with his wife as his opponent. This is why the woman was made out of Adam's side. She was not not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to  be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under  his  arm to be protected and near his heart to be loved.
Guys, how much sacrificial love are you willing to give to a woman?
Are you willing to serve her; serving her like Jesus Christ served the Church in humility not taking the role of a Master but that of a servant?
Are you willing to give yourself; your comfort, pleasure and life for your wife?
This love has nothing to do with feelings but servicing her whether you it is okay by you or not. It is a commitment to loving her for life.
Dear friend, before you look for a wife be ready to love unconditionally, you can start learning with the people in your life especially the women. Most importantly you should know what love really means by receiving this unconditional love from the Father because you can't give what you don't have. To love unconditionally you must know and believe that God loves you unconditionally (Jeremiah 31:3).
Marriage is prophetic, it is spiritual and it a divine agenda not made by man but by God.
God wants you to have the best in Marriage but you must seek His will before choosing a spouse.
Don't do it in a hurry or else you become sorry.
Don't  be deceived by your emotions  or else very soon you will have to look for how to motion yourself out of it.
Allow God lead you, for as many as are led by the Spirit of God are the sons of God.
See also: How you can receive the Holy Spirit
We will begin the ladies series next week Monday. Hope this series has blessed you?
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If you will be sincere with yourself you know that loving a woman like Christ loved the Church is not easy at all. We will struggle if we don't ask Him to help us love unconditionally by the power of the Holy Spirit.
" And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us."(Romans 5:5).
It is the Holy Spirit that helps us to love unconditionally.
We can't have the Holy Spirit if we have not surrendered our  lives to Jesus Christ the greatest lover.
You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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