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Relationship can ship a man into his destiny and can also ship a man out of his destiny.

Today we are on the Part 5 of the series on CREATING THE FUTURE YOU DESIRE. In our last post we said that the third way of creating the future you desire is in the power of your words.
Today we will be looking at the fourth way of creating our future by:


"1. Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.2. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper" ( Psalms 1:1-3).
There is a relationship that builds a man into fulfilling his destiny and there is a relationship that destroys a man and hinders him from fulfilling his destiny.

Relationship with people is a choice not by force. It is on purpose for the future not for fun.

Relationship that Builds:

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour" ( Eccl 4:9 KJV).

This is a relationship you have with people where by your association with them make you better, they challenge you, making you see reasons to release the hidden treasures in you. It is like an eagle with another eagle, they soar together in the sky, they have a very strong vision that other birds don't have and can achieve a common mission together because they are of like minds. An eagle with a chicken has no correlation at all, their lifestyle is very different. The eagle can sharpen the eagle but the eagle can't sharpen the chicken.

The right relationship will empower you to create the great future you desire. The story of Daniel and the 3 Hebrew boys in the Bible gives us a vivid picture of how the right people can positively influence our future. In Daniel 1:8, Daniel proposed in His heart not to defile himself by eating the King's meal that was sacrificed to idols because of the fear of God in him. In Chapter 3 we saw Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego refusing to bow down to the god Nebuchadnezzar had made (idolatry).
Four of them were of like minds, the first thing that brought them together was the love they had for God and their lifestyle which corresponds with that of the kingdom(kingdom of God) they represent even as slaves in a foreign nation. The lived by heaven kingdom culture not the culture of the Bablyonain nation. God made four of them great in Babylon; Daniel  was so relevant in his generation that he served 4 kings.
Friend, your association determines your destination in life. Your character today is a bye product of your association.

Relationship that kills Destiny:

"Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men" ( Proverb 4:14).

This is the kind of relationship that hinders you from manifesting and fulfilling destiny. It was Delilah that ruin the life and destiny of the great Samson. It was the friends of Rehoboam that influenced him to turn his heart against his people which made him lose the kingdom. The young Lady who is a prostitute today was lured into it by someone. The cultist today became so through association.

Tests to know if you are in the right relationship:

1. How do they see God?
"The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility" (Proverbs 15:33 KJV).

Do they have the fear of God in their lives? Is God the number one priority in their life? I am not asking if they go to Church but rather if they are lovers of God. There are so many church goers in church these days but few God lovers. Church goers go to fulfill a religious obligation that has no life of God in it.
People who trivialize the things of God and want you to sin against God  like Potiphar's wife are people you must flee from or else they will ruin your future ( Gen 39). People who are happy to live in sin will certainly make you a sinner. In your relationship, God should be prized higher above any other relationship.

3. How do they see life?

"Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him" (Isaiah 43:7 KJV).

What business should you have with people who waste their life, people who don't see life as an investment?  They live the way they like as though they own the life. They forget life is an investment, a gift and a trust. This is why people will endanger their life to do things that will destroy them because they don't know that they will give an account of their life to the owner of life. The man who is serving in jail term in prison has put his life on hold, because he stole, fought or killed someone. When in God's plan for him by now he should be a business mogul employing thousands of people in his nation. He did not value his life, perhaps he did not even know his purpose for living.

Build relationship with people who value their life, they will also value yours.

3. What is the content of discussion?

"Where the word of a king is, there is power: and who may say unto him, What doest thou?" (Eccl 8:4 KJV).

What do you guys talk about? Does it edify, is it inspiring and makes a positive impact in your life and destiny? Do they fire you up with the intention that you have stayed long in your comfort zone, it is time to move into a new realm in your life and destiny?
A guy who moves with guys that the content of their discussion is on women will one day become a womanizer even if that was never his dream.

4. How is their lifestyle?

"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose]." ( Proverb 27:17).

This has to do with their values, beliefs and character make up. When you are with a group of friends that steal, liars, wasters, fight, drink, live in immorality, dress indecently etc, you will certainly be like them. A lion will always act as a lion because of the association he came from, if a lion is not brave then it was not trained by a lion and not from the lion family.

5. Where do they go?

"The steps of a [good] man are directed and established by the Lord when He delights in his way [and He busies Himself with his every step]. ( Psalms 37:23 AMP).

Kings don't just go anywhere, they leave their palace on purpose not just for the fun of it.  Where your friends take you to determines where they are leading you to. You are to guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life (Proverb 4:23). The things you hear, see, feel, touch and say as a way of affecting your personality and destiny.
If a friend takes you to church, he is leading you to God because we go to church to have fellowship with God even though most people now have ulterior motives why they do to church. If a friend takes you to a club house, he is leading you to an irresponsible and sinful lifestyle, where you become a drunkard, immoral and live a life not pleasing to God.

Related: 5 ways world changers develop a positive mindset to life.

Our Relationships can lead to the limitation or manifestation of our destiny.

The wrong relationship is surely a killer of destiny. You can have either destiny helpers or destiny destroyers, the choice is yours to choose. Hope you have been blessed by this post. We will end this series on Friday.

You need to a relationship with God to create the future you desire and have the right kind of relationships by the leading of the Holy Spirit. Without Him you can do nothing (John 15:5).  Life is spiritual and humanity is in need of the help of divinity on earth. You need to partner with God so He can do for you that which you can't do for yourself.

You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.
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