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On Monday we began the Series Relationship Economics 101 with a special study on wants and needs in a relationship. On Wednesday we looked at What are wants in a relationship.Today we will be looking at what everyone need in a relationship.

What everyone need in a relationship
A man is never satisfied when the desires of his soul is not met, even when the desires of the body is met. When we look at the beginning of human relationship we see God's actual design for every relationship. Let's take a look at what God said; "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" (Genesis 2:18).
God looking at the handsome guy He created said it is not good for him to be alone and made him a help meet, you see God did not say this guy just needs an attractive beautiful lady, he did not say anything about her physical appearance, her education qualification, character trait...these are his wants. You can have a person that meets all your wants but can't meet your needs this is the disastrous in a relationship; she is kind, he is loving, she loves God, he is visionary, she is a virtuous woman, he is hardworking, she is respectful and submissive etc.
God said this Guy needs a babe called "Help meet" which also means a soul mate, a helper and helper in Hebrew means "ezer" which means a Constant Companion.
So what everyone needs in a relationship is called COMPANIONSHIP.
A companion is someone who your hearts are knit together like that of David and Jonathan ( 1 Samuel 18:1). A person who is not just your friend but your best friend, whose company you always enjoy. A person you always want to be with and can tell anything about you to and not be ashamed. I mean you are naked and not ashamed being with them which means they know secrets about you that others don't know, they know your weakness and still loves you for who you are. A companion is someone you choose to partner with in life because you both have mutuality of purpose, you think alike, you have similar goals, purpose, believes and values. You are so into them that you are not afraid of being vulnerable to them that you open your heart to them. They are always with you when you are in challenges and in times of celebration,  they can sacrifice their comfort for your comfort. This is what the bible calls laying down ones life for another (1 John 3:16).
The surprising thing is that most people don't settle for companionship they go for their wants that is temporary which they can get at anytime. So, the companionship they are supposed to get from their partner in a relationship, they are getting it from someone else. They can tell them anything, enjoy spending time with them, always visiting and missing them, get inspired by them and this person is in a relationship with another person, na wa oh!
Before you know it one thing leads to another, they begin to do what they are not supposed  to do (sexual immorality) because of the intimate level of their relationship. You must know that you are humans and no matter how principled or spiritual you are, you still have feelings. It is blood flowing through their body not water. This why no matter how anointed a Pastor is, he gets his wife pregnant it is not the Holy Spirit that does it for him oh. Life is on purpose walk in a relationship or even friendship with anybody on purpose because You are Created for a Purpose, you are not a mistake.
This brings me to the story I promised to share in the last episode. One of my mentor shared a story with me of how  a married man was sleeping with another married woman that was not his wife, this woman had everything she wants but her needs made her to begin to commit adultery.
The man and the woman where very close friends when they were single, the woman loved the man when,  but was waiting for him to come and talk to her about a relationship,  without her trying to make him talk. The man was seeing both of them as just friends. When it was time for him to get married he went to marry this woman's best friend. They both enjoy each others company, the woman comes to him always to see him, they were still very close friends even as married couples married to different spouse. As time goes on Adultery took its place as expected, they began to  cheat on their spouse because of the level of intimacy in their friendship. This woman could not find companionship in her husband, but in this man that has been her best friend, so she began to live in sin to fulfill her needs. This will not be your portion in Jesus name. Amen.
This is why I always say Marry your best friend.
 How can you be living as a married couple with someone and you are both living like  strangers, you only greet each other in the morning and evening, you don't discuss as friends, there is no freedom of communication between you both. The man has a best friend that he can tell anything to that he does not need his wife, so does the woman. This is not God's order in a relationship, his order is companionship where you enjoy fellowship and friendship with each other.
Dear friend, before you begin a relationship with her/him, do you see a companion in them and are you both compatible with each other. When you walk by emotions not convictions, it will motion you into a life of frustration that may last a life time.
Are you in a relationship where there is no companionship, it is time to leave them alone. You deserve to be happy, don't allow your feelings control your decisions rather control your feelings.
Are you married and you don't find companionship with your spouse. You have to work on it, ask God for Grace so that you both can be best of friends.
Please note that a relationship is a failure if it does not give you both companionship. Companionship makes you both work together as a team to fulfill  God's purpose for your life. Marriage is an assignment full of adventures to be enjoyed not endured, this is the way God designed it.
Hope you have been blessed by this series, we will continue on Monday. We will be looking at "What a Guy should do before finding a wife". Don't miss out on this exciting episode.
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Until your spiritual need is met every other need is counterfeit to your eternity. You first need companionship from God before any man, God is capable of meeting all your needs.
Do you know that God can provide for your wants and needs?
Do you know you need God?
Do you know you can't do without God?
Do you know that He is the supplier of your needs not even man, man can only be His agent? If your answer is "Yes" then This is His word for you today "But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus" ( Philippians 4:19).
You can connect to the All Sufficient God today, by surrendering your life to Him and inviting Him into your life right now by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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