Welcome to purposeful living today. Dear friend, hope you had a great weekend?  This week is your week of BLESSINGS.

"When we live based on our emotions without putting our emotions under control we will  motion ourselves out of God's plan in our relationship. "

This week we will be looking at what every lady need to know before getting married. We live in a generation where most ladies allow themselves to be driven by their emotions when making decisions that has to be for life. We look at the things that we can see without focusing on what is very important in building a long lasting relationship what is very important to us in building a long lasting relationship. A lady has a very powerful role to play in the life of a man, her marriage and her family. These roles  are inborn but need to be developed so she can build the home and man she desires. This why the bible said: "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies" [ Proverbs 31:10].

 These are the some of the very important things a lady should know before getting married:

1.    She should know her identity: In the series what a guy should know before finding a wife  I said a guy needs to know God and build an intimate relationship with God. Now, for the ladies it has to be the same but the issue of her identity must be discovered and hold onto in order for her to build a healthy relationship. There is so much identity crisis among ladies in our contemporary society, most ladies have their identity in the things rather than God who is the giver of all things.    

      "Your identity is built in the place of constant fellowship with God". 

        Ladies, you should know that you are the number one intercessor of your home based on the loving heart you have for your family. You will not want to see anything evil happen to your husband, children and family members. When you go to church if you take statistics no one will tell you that the women are more than the men in every church. The reason is that women are very caring  and feel responsible for their families. It was Hannah that was crying out to God for a child but it was not recorded that her husband Elkanah prayed about the situation [ 1 Samuel 2]. As a lady learn now how to intercede for others, start praying your future spouse, marriage and kids. It is necessary that you build an intimate relationship with God that no guy can put asunder.  

       A woman is a very emotional being while the man is a logical being.
       The woman's sense of perception and         sensitivity is very high. So most times she is capable of seeing things that her husband cannot see or what he will take for granted.

  This is why for the single ladies reading this post. Your relationship with God should be your number one priority, be in God's presence so that any man that wants you will have to access God first being always presently present in His presence before coming to you.
 My dear, How is your relationship with God? 

Are you led by the Spirit of God in making decisions or led by your emotions?

 Is it a need based relationship or a love based relationship? 

If is a love based relationship it means that you fellowship with God not because of what you want or need from Him. You fellowship with God because you love Him. Some ladies are too socially inclined that they don't care about their relationship with God. They can spend hours watching movies, visiting friends, go for parties, on social media but they got no time for God. This is the bedrock of failed marriages, where the woman is not a prayer warrior for her home and is not sensitive to God's leading especially when God is revealing a challenge that should be averted in your family.

Please know that marriage is Spiritual and prophetic. A failed society is a product of failed marriages. Marriages that did not fulfill God's mandate. 

The identity of every woman is in God and not in the change of surname; this is why your identity is not in any man. I am tired of seeing ladies who put their lives on hold waiting for a man. 

 My Dear, you got something to do here on earth, you got a purpose to fulfill, you got lives to bless as a single lady before you get married.

 God did not create you to be found by someone to complete you, only Him can do that for you. Find your identity in Christ. Whoever you marry is going to let you down if you believe that  they will have to make you complete.

You should be as a lady 100% getting married to a man that is also 100%; you are not a better half waiting for your other half so you can be complete. This is the reason most ladies are not living and pursing their dreams, they are not being responsible for their lives. No wonder some of them don't think outside the box on how they can be an asset to the man they will marry, they think as a liability and want everything to be done for them without thinking of how they can be industrious.

A woman should also discover her purpose in life, God created everybody with a purpose. When she discovers her purpose she will be able to know the man that fits her. If a lady that knows that God wants her to take care of the less privileged and has began this work as a single, if she marries a man who does not agree with that vision she will be forced to stop fulfilling her purpose and be made to do things she doesn't love to do. This can make her unhappy for life, this is why a woman must know her purpose and the man whose purpose in life agrees with her God given purpose. You can love someone whose purpose in life does not fit with yours, when you choose to marry them you will struggle in fulfilling your purpose and in the marriage. On like the case where you love each other and have a mutual purpose to fulfill... To be continued on Wednesday.

You need God to be the virtuous woman he wants you to be and this can only be done when you surrender your life to the lordship of Jesus Christ.

You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught and fellowship there.
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  1. Will definately be here to read the next part...

    You are doing a wonderful job on this blog, I'm learning a lot...