Welcome to purposeful living today. In our last post we talked about how one of the aspect that makes a woman beautiful is her physical appearance and we gave steps on how to enhance our physical appearance to be attractive and beautiful. Don't be left out of this gist see Part one so you can understand very well what actually makes a woman beautiful.
Our society is obsessed with being beautiful ! But is there more to beauty than what meets the eye?
Is physical beauty all there is to it? 
Should a woman strive to be beautiful?
The Social media has a big influence on what we consider beautiful or attractive today. We tend to evaluate physical attractiveness by the standard of the beauty of women who are constantly flashed before us on television, movies, magazines, etc. This is very unfair because Hollywood, Nollywood and all the hoods can simply create the most physically beautiful image by plastic surgery, breast implants, lip injections, etc. They create an ideal which is unattainable for most women and is basically fake! This also perpetuates the false idea that physical beauty is more important for a woman than anything else.
Because of this, a lot of women focus their attention on the physical side of beauty, and yet there is more to being truly beautiful than just that. We don’t always hear about the rest of the story. If physcial beauty was all to it then why should an ex beauty queen be turned to a punching bag because of the lady lacked what we are about to discuss. I in no way support the act of the act of man beating his wife it is unmanly. This brings us to the other aspect of what actually makes a woman beautiful.
Inner beauty
Inner beauty has to do with the unseen beauty of a woman but expressed through her actions. It is the character make up of a woman on how she relates with people and situations. A beautiful woman is not just admired for her physical appearance; she is admired for her inner qualities as well. There are many inner qualities that make a woman beautiful, and to cover all of them would require a separate article. However, I want to focus on six important inner qualities a woman should possess to make herself truly beautiful.

1. The fear of God: There is nothing that make a woman beautiful like the fear of God. The fear of God is your love, respect, honour and reverence for God. God values a woman who fears Him. When a woman is putting God first in her life and is striving to do what He has commanded, she is attractive to God. She should continue to deepen her relationship with Him and continue to grow spiritually. Proverbs 31:30 reads, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” She is not just a church goer but a God lover, so this affects the way she dress, talk,  and act. She is God conscious not man conscious, so she will not lower her standards to suit a man. Her desire is to please God by the help of the Holy Spirit, through the study of the Word that is final authority in her life,through prayers and worship. She is a lover of His presence, that is what she carries wherever she goes. This makes her to be favoured and to be a favour.
2. kindness: She should be gracious. Proverbs 11:16 tells us that a gracious woman retains honor. When you think of the women that you hold in high regard, they usually are ladies who are kind, gentle, thoughtful, unselfish, etc. They are the women that we look up to and remember. In Proverbs 31:26 , a virtuous woman is described as having the law of kindness on her tongue.
Bradley Gerstman, Christopher Pizzo and Rich Seldes, in the book What Men Want , write, “ Women are astonished when we tell them what many professional men look for in a woman on the first date—besides chemistry, of course. Are you ready to hear what men hope to find in a woman they are dating for the first time? Men like women who are nice. Men are suckers for kindness and consideration. We love women who are affable, flexible, easygoing. Most men cannot resist a sweet woman ” (page 68). Women who are gracious and kind are attractive.

3. Good judgment. In
Proverbs 11:22 , a lovely woman who lacks discretion is compared to a ring of gold in a swine’s snout. If a woman is physically attractive, but lacks discretion, it takes away from her beauty and value. Good judgment is needed in many areas of life such as moral issues, money matters, choices, decisions, dealing with others, work, etc. A woman who possesses good judgment is of great value because she can be trusted to do the right thing.
4. Confident: A confident woman is very attractive. A research was done to ask some men what attracts them to  women, they said it is the way ladies comport themselves, their level of confidence in who they are and in how they look. Most ladies are driven by low self-esteem that they do things at their disadvantage just to please a guy. I once heard of how a guy told his girlfriend to drink his urine and she did all in the name of love, she was afraid of losing him lol. It is lack of confidence that makes a beautiful lady who is a Queen to dress like an harlot( Slave) all because she wants to please a guy. This is the reason a girl jumps from one relationship to another, because she thinks there is no one to love her.
Dear, confidence is a strong conviction in who God has made you to be. Stop being someone else, and stop acting in a way to please others and displease God and yourself.
5. Industrious: No man wants to marry a liability, your looks can attract you to them but one of what keeps you in constantly attraction to them is when they see you as an asset. Be responsible, stop acting irresponsibly. A woman should continue to grow and better her inner self. Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is competent and capable of doing many different things. A woman who continues to grow while developing her talents and abilities is a woman of value. She is one who is able to contribute to others through these abilities, and she will be of use to her family, Church, community, etc. A woman who is developing her potential is an attractive woman. Think of how you can invest in yourself and others around you. Have the adding value mentality.

6. Beautiful to God
A truly beautiful woman is not only attractive on the outside and inside, she is also attractive to God. How a woman looks to God is more important than any other quality she possesses because one day her outer beauty will fade and her inner beauty will cease, but the beauty that God sees in her will be important when she stands before Him. Being beautiful to God should be top priority on every woman’s list. The Scriptures give us some clues as to what God finds attractive in women.
God values a quiet spirit in a woman. As 1 Peter 3:3-4 tells us, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel, rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” Does this mean that a woman should never say anything, that she should always be quiet? No, this is saying that a woman should not have an argumentative, contentious spirit. She should not be someone who is quick to argue and demand her way. She should be peaceable to others and respectful to her husband. There are several scriptures in the book of Proverbs that talk about women who are angry and contentious, and how difficult it is to live with them.
There is a certain attitude among some women that has its roots in the feminist movement and is still prevalent among certain segments of society. This attitude is a deep anger toward men. These women want to prove that they are just as good as their male counterparts, and that they don’t need them. Contrast this attitude to the gentle and quiet spirit that God values in women. A truly beautiful woman is not in competition with men,
she understands the value and strengths that they possess and appreciates them. Women and men both possess certain qualities that are needed by one another. When a woman has a gentle and quiet spirit, she is attractive to others and to God.
A truly beautiful woman is not in competition with men, she understands the value and strengths that they possess and appreciates them. Women and men both possess certain qualities that are needed by one another.
God values a woman who is submissive. “Submissive” is not a popular word in our society today. Many people think of being submissive as being weak. Yet, God has commanded women who are married to submit themselves to their husband’s authority. This does not mean that a woman should never have an opinion or say in what takes place in the family. A wise husband will consult his wife on all important issues. A woman who submits herself to her husband is a woman that understands and is yielding to the government that God has established in the home ( Ephesians 5:22-32 ). It is not a sign of weakness when a woman submits to her husband, it is a sign of strength. It is a sign that she is in fact submitting herself to God and is obeying the commands that He has established. It is a sign of her faith in God. When a woman submits to her husband’s authority in marriage, she is beautiful to God.
Our society places a high value on the physical beauty of women, but it does not understand all of the elements that make a woman truly beautiful. If a woman possesses only the physical aspect of beauty without the inner and godly qualities, she is a hollow and empty shell.

It is within every woman’s reach to become the beautiful woman God intended her to be. She should be beautiful on the outside, beautiful on the inside and, most importantly, she should be beautiful to God.
Strive to be the beautiful woman you were created to be. Take care of yourself physically, develop and maintain your inner beauty, and most importantly, strive to look your best to God!
Please share your own view on what you think actually makes a woman beautiful apart from the ones I have listed  in he part one and two of this post  in the comment box. I don't know it all, I will like to learn from you. Thanks.

Dear friend, You can only become the woman that God wants you to be by you surrendering your heart to the lord Jesus. He is the only one that can make you the woman your husband will be happy with and ultimately He will be happy with your union. He wants to take away that negative mindset, that sinful life style and empower you by His Spirit to live for Him. 
You can invite the Lord Jesus in your life now by saying this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
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  3. Wow! Glory to God.Thanks you very much.