SHOULD A CHRISTIAN HAVE A BOYFRIEND/ GIRLFRIEND ?


Welcome to purposeful living today. How are you doing? Hope you are having a great day? This is one question in my heart that I kept seeking for answers in my early teen. This is a question any young person who wants to live for God with their lives keep asking.  As we are living in a confused generation where we don't know what is good and evil anymore, yes we are now at a cross road because evil is now dressed in the appearance of good. The mass media from the western world has done more harm than good to our morality. This is surely the agenda of the devil in this end time to pull many away from God living in the flesh and then living in sin.
What is the origin of boyfriend/girlfriend?
It began in 1909 as a girl  describing a boy as her friend so she used the term "boyfriend" and a two male friends where also referred to as boyfriends, this was for a platonic friendship.
The problem began in 1922 when a boy started addressing a girl he is in a love with, a sexual partner in a romantic relationship as a girlfriend.
Let's look at the present definition of boyfriend in two dictionaries, the same definition applies to girlfriend in both dictionaries
Merriam Webster dictionary defined a boyfriend as a male friend, a frequent or regular male companion in a romantic or sexual relationship.
The English dictionary defined a boyfriend as male friend, a male partner in a romantic relationship.

Present day reality on boyfriend/girlfriend:
You will agree with me that it is very difficult to see a  platonic boyfriend/girlfriend friendship this is because it has been overshadowed by the romantic and sexual view. When you look at the model or charateristics of love given in 1 Corinthians 13, you will discover that this kind of friendship has failed the love test. It is a friendship that focuses on the desires of the  flesh such as sexual immorality, lustful pleasures, hatred, immoral thoughts, selfishness, fighting...Galatians 5:19-21, Colossians 3:5-7. This friendship that has to do it possessing or owning someone who you are not married to. There is no healthy relationship between friendship with the opposite sex and boyfriend/girlfriend. One focus on love,  care and concern of the life and future of the friend, the other focuses on meeting personal and selfish needs( awakening love before its time, songs of Solomon 8:4) not concerned about the destiny of the other.  People have  been harmed and have lost their lives because of boyfriend/girlfriend but not so for friendship with the opposite sex. The activities of friendship is different from boyfriend/girlfriend which is also referred to as friends with benefit, because it is beclouded in immorality.
If you have a boyfriend, how will you react seeing him with another girl?
What is the purpose of your relationship, is it giving God glory?
If you are married, can you introduce another woman to your wife and children as your girlfriend?
There is no where in the bible it is mentioned not to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, but looking at the fruits that it bears, it is against God's will.

I know you want to ask if  I am saying that people can't be in a premarital relationship?  This is not what I am saying, it is biblical to be in a premarital relationship, Mary was betrothed to Joseph. I am only saying that a relationship that has to do with sinful pleasures which boyfriend and girlfriend represent in our world  today is ungodly. I believe God wants us to enjoy healthy and godly friendship with the opposite sex.
WORD FOR THE DAY
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Proverb 4:23.
THE FATHER'S CALL !!!
There is a void in every man that not wealth, fame,social status,  sex, drink, fun and the likes can fill.  It is only God that can fill that void, what is that void that is missing? It is the absence JESUS IN YOUR LIFE AND ALL HE OFFERS such as peace, love righteousness and joy in the Holy Ghost.  You have taken the wheel of your life all by yourself and like Peter you have caught nothing with your life, this is the time to allow Jesus Christ into your boat (life)  so he can help you to catch the fullness of life in him that gives you a meaningful life on earth and defines your eternal destination.
If you want to surrender to Jesus Christ why not say this prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ  I acknowledge that I am a sinner,  I believe in your death and resurrection.  I ask you forgive me of my sins,  I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life.  I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen .
If you just said that prayer I welcome you to God's family. Look for a Bible believing church where God's word is taught to fellowship there.
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