HOW TO IDENTIFY FRIENDS WITH BENEFIT BEFORE THEY RUIN YOUR LIFE


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"By this we come to know (progressively to recognize, to perceive, to understand) the [essential] love: that He laid down His [own] life for us; and we ought to lay [our] lives down for [those who are our] brothers [in Him]" (1John 3:16 AMP).

One of the strategies of the devil in this end time to hinder people from building purposeful Friendships, is the type of friendship called "friends with Benefit".

What does 'friends with benefit' mean?
The truth is that every friendship has benefits. There is a dual responsibility to keep the friendship growing. Friendship is not for  you to be responsible alone for building it; the other person should be doing something. This shows that they value you and cherish the friendship.

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But in this type of friendship called 'friends with benefit', the benefit is evil and not consistent with the will of God. It is based on a contractual agreement or an individual agenda where the purpose of the friendship is not based on love but based on fulfilling the needs of each other or the individual is a friend because they want their needs (sexual, financial, social) met. Persons in this kind of friendship are partners in sex, partners in stealing, partners in prostitution - partners in evil. This is what they have as mutual interest. For example they can agree to be sex partners who are not in a relationship leading to marriage. They both agree to give themselves to each other with no string attached.

Friends with benefit (FWB) are your friends as far as there is something they can get from you in return. It could be sex, fame, wealth etc. If you break the agreement, they may come after you to ruin your life.

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FWB involves the following:

1. The lust of the eyes: Building friendship based on what you can see. That has to do with the person's achievement, beauty, dreams, wealth, fame, social status...

2. The lust of the flesh: The desire and craving of the body for the following such as sex, greed depression, low self-esteem, heart break...


3. The pride of life: The desire to achieve our dreams at the detriment of others.
A boy is a friend to a girl not because he loves her but because her parents are wealthy and the moment the money stops coming, the friendship ends. John is a friend of Mary  because he  wants to satisfy his emotional needs. She is his appetizer before the main meal (marriage) and he knows that Mary can't be his close friend and can't even imagine marrying her. Peace  is a friend of Emmanuel because he is a superstar, the moment that changes, she is no longer interested in him. This reminds me of the words of a musician who said "when money dey, friends go dey; when money nor dey, friends will go". That means when there is money there are many friends but when there is no money you will have no friend.

This is the type of friendship the prodigal son had. When he had money his friends were all over him but when his money finished, he was deserted by all his friends.
It is ungodly to build this kind of friendship because it is not a love based friendship. The Bible gives us the characteristics of love in 1 Corinthians 13.

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Let me share some characteristics of love that does not correlate with FWB:


1. Love is patient and kind: This friendship wants to get things done instantly, sharp sharp so as to gratify their desires. He is only kind because of what he wants from you and once he gets it,  the lion in him will emerge.

2. Love is not selfish: friends with benefit expresses  selfishness as a person  and both of them are in the friendship to gain from one another. So you put yourself above the other and you aren't sacrifical in the friendship to the extent of laying your life for the other.

3. Love is not proud:  This kind of friendship is full of pride of self-achievements that they don't want others to be above them but below them. They just want to be at the top alone.


4. Love has to do with bringing out the best in others: This is what God expects us to do in friendship. We are to bring out the best in our friends no matter the price we have to pay. This was expressed in the friendship between David and Jonathan in the bible. Friends with benefit will only bring out the best in you if it will benefit them.

5. Love does not rejoice in evil: God hates sin, to build a friendship based on sinful living is not His will at all. As a child of God, you are to pursue righteousness, so flee from friends that want you to join them as partners in sin.


These are some of the characteristics of love you can read 1Corithians 13 to get more understanding of the God-kind of love. Friends with benefit is not God's idea, but the devil's. God's idea is loving our friends  sacrificially and unconditionally. Loving them based on who they are, not based on their achievements.

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This is how God showed us how much  He loved us, by giving us Jesus Christ. You need Jesus Christ to walk in love and build healthy friendship with people. He is your friend and not a friend with benefit because he wants something from you. He is your friend because He loves you for who you are and won't leave you the way you are when you invite him to your life. If you are struggling with loving people why not surrender to Jesus today? He is the only giver of love.

 Dear, Jesus loves you very much. He will make a message out of the mess of your life. Just trust Him with your life.



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Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner. I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins. I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name. Amen.

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