DEALING WITH ANGER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city (Proverbs 16:32).

Anger is a deed of the flesh, the rebellion of a man to the actions of others that is unpleasant to him. It becomes sinful when it is not controlled.

"But now put away and rid yourselves [completely] of all these things: anger, rage, bad feeling toward others, curses and slander, and foulmouthed abuse and shameful utterances from your lips!" (Colossians 3:8 AMP).

Anger has terminated so many lives and relationships. It has broken many hearts as well as many homes.

How we deal with people when we are angry tells of our maturity or immaturity.

If people are special to us and we treasure our relationship with them, we must control our anger no matter the circumstances.




Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

We can control our anger by exercising self-control.

A person who rules their spirit demonstrates self-control. Self-control is a fruit of our recreated human spirit that helps us control ourselves.

This means that when we feel in a certain way, we can choose not to act on it if we know it’s against the Word of God.

Now it’s important to understand that if you let your feelings — especially anger — get into a rage, then you may be at the point of not being able to control yourself ( Ephesians 4:27).

So how do we then exercise self-control?

1. Take every thought captive...

The word of God in 2 Corinthians 10:5 instructs us to take every thought captive unto the obedience of Christ before it becomes a stronghold in our mind. In other words, we can choose what we are going to think about and dwell on.
We can continue to fuel our angry emotions with wrong thoughts...or we can take a stand and with God’s help, refuse to allow the situation to get out of control.
So, when you feel yourself getting upset, the sooner you say “No!” to those thoughts and feelings, the better. Instead of letting the anger control you, you can pray something like:
“God, please help me. I know being upset is not going to get me anywhere. This person hurt my feelings and that was wrong, but I’m not going to act on this. With Your grace and strength, I’m going to control myself, and I’m going to trust You to take care of the situation.”

2. Don't speak when angry: Being in an angry state is not a pleasant atmosphere and when words are released, they are most times unpleasant because the person is speaking from the hurt they are going through. This can lead to saying words that can cost your reputation and even losing relationships that are dear to your heart.

See also: 4 kinds of love and their way of expression


3. Think before you speak: In the  heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything  and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

4. Put on a smile: When you are angry at someone and there is a need for you to express yourself, just take sometime to smile. Smiling make you not to hold on to the hurt you feel but to choose the part of love. When you smile you calm yourself and the person that is making you angry or the person that is angry at you. It helps you to express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

5. Forgive: You will always be hurt and you will hurt people. This is why we must always learn to forgive. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

See also: The blessing and power of singleness


6.Avoid Criticizing:
To avoid criticizing or placing blame on people, which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Talk in love, be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you forgot that today is my birthday" instead of "You don't love me that's why you forgot today is my birthday."

7. Identify possible solutions:
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.

When we are always  angry, we hinder the access of great people (destiny helpers) into our lives and also the freedom of expression of the opinions of others that can make us better especially if we are working with a team.

See also: The most difficult thing to do

Choose to walk in love in your relationships. Let love have the final say not uncontrolled anger.


You deserve to be loved, you are worth the Blood of Jesus. Your value is in Him not in your achievements or personality.

God my Father is loving. He is so in love with you dear. Stay in His love.


You can begin a relationship now with the lord Jesus Christ and experience His love for you by saying this prayer:

Lord Jesus Christ I acknowledge that I am a sinner, I believe in your death and resurrection. I ask you to forgive me my sins, I reject the devil and all his works and l welcome the Holy Spirit into my life. I declare today I am born again and I am a child of God in Jesus name .Amen.

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